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Getting a tutor from a former teacher I had feelings for?

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Question - (14 June 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 21 June 2015)
A male Canada age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I had this middle school teacher from 3 years ago (I am now in Highschool, 18 years old). I havent talked to her in three years till yesterday.. I had her for Math(grade 6 to grade 8) and she was also my middle school basket ball coach (for 4 years). I bumped into her yesterday at the mall and did some catching up. I've mentioned to her that finals are coming and I'm having some troubles with math. I jokingly asked her if she could tutor me and help me out. Which she said yes. We already set up the schedules when she's going to tutor me.

But the thing is way back in middle school I had this really massive feelings for her. My whole middle school year I've been crushing on her even tho I dated few girls back then. Yesterday when I was talking to her and I could feel that my feelings for her are still there. Which is weird because I have a girlfriend and my feelings for her are from a really really long time ago... I taught those feelings are due to puberty and my hormones all over the place.

What should I do? Should I just cancel the tutor?? I don't want to do something stupid while she's tutoring me and i dont want the entire tutoring session to be awkward. Plus she just got married a few months ago

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A female reader, AuntieZ United Kingdom +, writes (21 June 2015):

You are legally an adult which means you can do pretty much what you feel is right. However please remember this woman is married now and most likely will not have any feelings for you.

If you truly feel awkward cancel the sessions but you should be fine really.

Good luck,

AuntieZ

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (15 June 2015):

C. Grant agony auntYou're 18, so you're legally an adult. Adult behaviour is doing what your brain tells you is right, not what your hormones tell you you want. She's newly married and you have a girlfriend, so there's no way anything is going to happen even if you do make a pass at her -- except that you'll end up humiliated.

I give you credit for asking the question, as it says you're self-aware enough to see that there could be a problem. If you don't think you can control yourself, then yes you should cancel the arrangement.

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