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writes:I am thirteen years old and I am in love with a boy who I am almost positive is not gay. I want him so badly but to get him I would have to come out, which would mean certain rejection from "freinds" I am sure this is not a phase because I have been in love with this boy 4 about the last 10 months. I don't think I could be happy with any other person. I also don't want to hurt my freind and his rep. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, jkoh +, writes (16 July 2008):
jkoh is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks peeps. I guess you are right. Mabey there will be somone else. I should just enjoy the freindship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): I would just enjoy your freindship, it would spoil it. He prob does not need to know as he just likes you as a freind.
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reader, Carrie216 +, writes (15 July 2008):
 Well sweetie, I know that this must be an extremely tough situation. If this boy is straight, then he is straight. If you don't want to come out just yet, then I would say there isn't much you can do except relax and enjoy your teen years. That special someone will come around eventually.Plus, you are thirteen. You are very young. I'm sort of surprised that you've already figured out that you're gay. You still have plenty of time to explore yourself and figure out what you want. And you never know, perhaps this boy you're in love with hasn't quite figured it out yet. So, maybe in a couple years...But, if you aren't ready to come out, then well you aren't. Plain and simple. To find out whether or not this boy is gay, yes you would need to tell him you are. Which I can imagine is a step you are not yet ready to take.But again, you are still young. If you find in a few years that this is who you are and you do finally come out, then friends who ditch you because of it aren't real friends at all. They'd be missing out on a great person just because they can't handle different kinds of people. So find some friends who accept you for who you are.Good luck hun!
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