A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:So I have this friend. It's always been at the brink of evolving into a friendship but never really does because our personalities are different. This friend on the surface is very sweet and nice but when in club context he sometimes used to come on to me or be grabby and sexual but when I tried to go further, he would immediately start making out with someone else. It wasn't a nice feeling and I don't really know how to interpret his behaviour but as hot-cold and attention seeks, I'm not sure if he does so he can raise his value with other guys in clubs by showing he's sought after. Thankfully I never developed emotions. Anyway, he keeps trying to spend time together except when we get to the day he always shifts plans from say a one on one coffee to a pub quiz with other friends (I hate pub quizzes), and there's always an excuse as to why not to do stuff. Around Christmas he knew I was estranged from my family and invited me to stay with him and his mother, this felt like a very intimate invitation, I told him it was a nice idea but I'd let him know. When I did confirm he suddenly completely reneged on what he said cos situation had changed and said I was welcome to visit but I'd have to get an air b'n b probably. I didn't go. Now I'm not hung up over this guy but really confused about how to deal with his behaviour in nature non dramatic way. He invited me to his birthday party and I sent him a very nice message saying I can't go. I feel like he wants my friendship on his terms but also wants me to sexually desire him but doesn't have any really interests in me, it's very confusing and weird.
View related questions:
christmas Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, N91 +, writes (14 February 2018):
 Run a mile.
Absolute waste of time. It sounds like you already analyzed the situation well on your own. It sounds like he wants to be the centre of attention and he does it by exhibiting confusing behaviours.
I'm not sure why you're still entertaining this guy tbh, he sounds like way too much drama for the sake of a friendship and couldn't even imagine how much stress he would cause you if you caught feelings for him.
Avoid like the plague.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionanyone?
...............................
|
