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36-40,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend is very good at oral sex and i really enjoy sex with him. I get frustrated, and so does he, because it takes me way too long to reach an orgasm. Sometimes i feel as if i'm concentrating too much on it, and maybe that is why. What is something i can do so we both enjoy it, and we don't stress out on the time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): Do what a guy does. Lay back and let what he is doing wash over.
No time line... no expectations.
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reader, TheAngelWatcher  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Having sex isn't always about reaching orgasm. You and your man need to understand that the sex your having can be just as pleasurable as the orgasm that you're both aiming for at the end. If he is constantly waiting for you to have this orgasm, lots of pressure is put onto you, making the pressure overtake the pleasure. Tell him that you want to make the experience fun and not a task. Orgasms are better when least expected anyway! Good luck!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (28 December 2010):
 What is way too long? It's common to take at least 20 minutes to orgasm. Have you thought about adding in a small bullet vibrator? Or you could switch between him using his mouth and his hands. You can also add in your own hands to get there faster.
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (28 December 2010):
 When you are alone, does it take you as long to orgasm?
If it is a shorter time it may be a relaxing problem as you are maybe self conscience about your body image.
Maybe take time to relax and be somewhere you feel comfortable and feel no worries.
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