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writes:i've recently started hanging out with a guy and we have been out on a few dates. the thing is, he's never tried to make a move on me and we've been out a handful of times, so now i'm starting to wonder if he's just interested in me as a friend or as something more. i don't really want to bring up that conversation because i imagine it would be very awkward but i don't like not knowing what's going on. can someone fill me in? i'm completely clueless when it comes to relationships
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): It's possible that this guy is interested and is just hesitant to make a move. Is there a reason you know of which would make him hesitant? For example, if the two of you work together then he might be hesitant because if things go badly it could create an awkward situation.
There are other possible explanations, including him not knowing whether you're into him or not. Are you giving him some pretty clear signals? Guys aren't always good at picking up subtle ones, unfortunately. Is he quite a bit older than you are? An age gap can make a guy pause. Also, it is possible he just doesn't have much experience, or that past gf's have been the aggressors. He might have a fear of rejection which is holding him back. Any or all of these things could be factors.
My advice is if you've been hanging out with him and things are going well, then don't fret. He is probably into you and wants more than just a friendship, too. At some point, probably soon, one of the two of you will have to either make a move or say something though.
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