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Four weeks later, has he lost interest already?

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Question - (12 December 2013) 4 Answers - (Newest, 12 December 2013)
A female Australia age 51-59, *urdock writes:

Hi there I met a guy online we met and instantly hit it off... had a great time met at my local... saw him once a week since then so had x4 dates... he used to text me everyday or send a late goodnite sms too the sms have stopped... I did send him a sms saying hi how are you? he didn't respond until later that night, he rang we spoke for 15mins was great, we laughed and I asked if he wanted to catch up again he said he was busy this week - nextweek yes, but the calls and sms have stopped ? has he lost interest?

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (12 December 2013):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntYou've left out an important detail. i.e.: Did you and he have sex?????

If "yes," then you are enduring the logical result of putting out for a guy too soon after meeting him....

If "no," then he ain't interested.... so turn your focus elsewhere.....

Good luck...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2013):

Yes, he has lost interest. I often read similar posts from other women who get the same treatment. They get too anxious over guys they barely know.

Here's something you should keep in mind. People you meet online are also communicating with other people. They are not committed to you, so they can see as many people as they like.

He may have found someone he was more into in the meantime.

You shouldn't take it personally. People will be polite and seem very interested. Take it at face value, and just take your time to get more acquainted. You aren't hitting it off until the guy wants to see you in-person on a regular basis, and his communication is constant.

Don't judge by messaging. That's what teenagers do.

You need more personal interaction to see how interested someone is in you.

You should reserve your feelings as long as you can hold back. It's okay to feel attracted and interested. You can even be romantic. Just keep feelings and emotions on hold.

It may only be about sex.

It helps to minimize messaging. Encourage him to call you to make things more personal, and keep things on the adult-level.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 December 2013):

Honeypie agony auntI think it's always so hard in the beginning to figure out what is going on.

I would back off and see if he contact you over the week-end or early next will, if he doesn't then I'd write him off.

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A female reader, AuntyEm United Kingdom +, writes (12 December 2013):

AuntyEm agony auntYep sadly it looks like he has lost interest. Spare your blushes and feelings and don't contact him again. He probably just didn't have the balls to say 'sorry, you arn't for me'

Don't take it to heart x

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