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Found my boyfriend on a dating site. What should I do? Set him up or block him?

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Question - (7 August 2016) 5 Answers - (Newest, 9 August 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Ive just been shocked by my boyfriend . He has been very silent with me and told me his phone was broken .My friend is on a dating site and she told me he is on there . I looked and he is , so i put up a fake profile only for him to see , i have no picture on it . He has given out a new phone number and said hes been single for the last 3 years . we have been together for 11 months .He knew how i was cheated on in past relationships and hes now doing this to me . i dont plan on telling him i know hes on the site but from this moment hes now an ex .No-one treats me like that and im not a mug once someone does something like that theyre gone no 2nd chances.

My friend said set him up arrange a date and be there myself i can see where shes coming from i do feel like doing this to show he cant mess people around and think he can get away with it but i also plan on blocking him out of my life .

should i do what my friend suggested or just block and delete him ?

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (9 August 2016):

BrownWolf agony aunt

Good advise from the other Aunts...

You really want to waste more of your time on a guy like this??? Why? The time you spend setting him up could be used finding a new loyal guy.

Hey...he is dating other people...Why are you not dating other people? Treat others the way you want to be treated.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2016):

i personally would set him up, but i know thats a terrible option. so block him and delete him. tell him its over and block/delete his contact on EVERYTHING. imagine what he'd say about you if he found out it was you trying to set up the date and stuff. i honestly dont see why people cheat. he is an a-hole so let him know

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2016):

What will you prove by setting him up? He has already done that! Totally agree with honeypie. He will turn it on you and tell everyone you had a profile on there and his was an 'old' one. He won't want people to see him in a bad light. He has showed you who he really is...stop allowing him any more time. His intention was to cheat or find someone else. I'd go public with your revelation. Why should he get away with it?

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (8 August 2016):

Ciar agony auntI agree with Honeypie. Setting him up muddies the waters. He can and likely will argue that he knew it was you and that's the story he'll spin to others. Keep your hands clean, that way there is no room for doubt or suspicion.

Email him a link to his profile and wish him the best of luck in his search. Leave it at that, no crying, no accusations or name calling. Then block and delete.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (8 August 2016):

Honeypie agony auntI wouldn't waste my time setting him up. If he is a "serial" cheater he will no doubt try and turn it around and make it out like he KNEW it was you and that HE set up the profile you catch you.

If I were you, I'd take a screenshot of his profile- post it on his Facebook, tell him you are done dating him as he is a cheating twat.

After that? BLOCK him on EVERYTHING. Phone, e-mail, all social media etc.

If he HAS anything of yours GET those items first... if you have any of his... Tough cookies. (for him)

Rather than doing all these elaborate schemes by arranging a date etc... JUST show him to the World for what he is.. a cheater and then BE DONE with him.

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