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writes:Hihi! My boyfriend's birthday is coming up.... I'm making like a 101 things I love about you in a jar... Do you think it's a good idea??? Do you think he'll like it??? :O I have to give it to him earlier than his real day as we are gonna be on a school camping trip so I can't bring it with me to give it to him on that day cuz the glass is gonna break etc... Sorry I'm a bit wordy :P Ahahah love to hear some of your opinions on this :) Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 October 2014):
 Oh, in that case: go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2014): I posted this question :) well I made a card and probably would back it up with another gift... And he does appreciate things like these especially when I make them. He's made me like this card with such a beautiful pop up rose and like things I make compared to him is not as good. So I thought I'll make him smtg that I'm capable of making and just hope he'd appreciate it. and also I thought maybe he'd need these kind of things on bad days.. So yeah :) and thank you all so far for all your thoughts!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 October 2014):
 I am afraid Chigirl is right. I mean, it's a lovely idea, sweet and thoughtful, but if the boy is your age... he may just feel awkward and embarassed, rather than moved. I think a boy of 13-15 does not have a lot of interest/ tolerance for cutesy,mushy stuff , and talking about love matters. The occasional compliment or term of endearments yes, but a full blown love declaration... and it will take
FOREVER to read 101 little notes with your sentiment on it...in the meantime, I think he may feel just overwhelmed / scared by this flood of affection, and not receive it with the full open enthusiasm it would deserve.
Like, he may be flattered inside, but if, un-glib as most young teens are, he'll just take your effort with an " Uh, ehm, ok, like,... cool ", won't you feel disappointed and resentful ?...
He may also be terrorized that his friends come to know about it, that would sort of ruin his street cred:).
So, think it twice before going SO all out.... then again, as Chigirl said, yu know him better, we make generic comments, but if you KNOW him and know for a fact that is the super romantic type who loves this kind of gestures, then go for it.
But if you are not sure- I'd opt for something more low key for the time being.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (2 October 2014):
You know him best! If you think he will like it, and if hes a very romantic guy who loves to talk to you for hours about why he loves you and why you love him... Then he will probably love it. Its cute. Personally though, Id not do it. I find such gestures overly dramatic and icky. Itd make me feel uncomfortable to recieve such a gift unless I was so madly in love that I would happily spend hours talking about why we love one another... Typical teenage boys arent that interested on romance and lovey dovey. But, again, you know him best!
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (2 October 2014):
This is such a cool idea. I wish I'd thought of it!A really sturdy glass jar probably won't break if you wrap it well in transport when you're camping if you really want to take it with you and give it to him on the day.But I think it's the kind of gift that should be given/received in private so it's up to you when you give it.Are you planning to write each thing on a scrap of paper? If you are, it might not fill a large jar so pack the rest of the jar with some sweeties/hard candies/lollies if there's any room left. Do you have "Love Hearts" in Australia? They would be ideal.And if you're still with each other in the years to come you can buy a refill of the sweets every year to "refill your hearts" too.And if your boyfriend doesn't appreciate this present then he truly is a moron. But I'm sure he won't - it's brilliant!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2014): That is one of the sweetest and cutest things I've heard in a long long time. So many people complain, or make people feel bad. That takes a lot of thought and work.
Just another suggestion. He's a boy, and he may not be as emotional about this as you might. So include another gift he can tell his guy friends about. That's something you should share just between the two of you.
He is a very lucky boy!!!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (1 October 2014):
 Awwwww. that's too sweet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2014): It seems that you put a lot of thought into the gift. People these days would just buy the first thing they see on a shelf and not put any thought into it. I think that this is a wonderful idea. If he rejects the gift or says that it is lame, then he doesn't appreciate you and your time you put into making the gift. Remember, anything store bought is nothing compared to things made by the person you love the most~
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