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anonymous
writes:I lost my virginity last night, i barely bled but i was so tense the pain was agony! we did it twice, without a condom but he withdrew before he came. Im sore now and it really really burns to wee, its awful! is this normal and will it always hurt when i have sex?
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (23 February 2009):
oh and it's not UTI! it's just from where your pee stings the slight tears in your vagina from where he thrusted too hard or from where you were not wet enough. next time use more foreplay!
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (23 February 2009):
sounds pretty common to me. BUT WHY DID YOU NOT USE A CONDOM!? just because he pulls out does not mean that you can't get pregnant or catch an STD. on his pre cum there are millions of sperm alone. it only takes one. be more responsible next time and use a condom or get on the pill.
i'm surprised you did it twice, once was enough for me on the first time. you should give yourself a week or so before doing it again. it hurts from where he stretched you. i felt like i had a slight ache inside me as well, i think it must bruise a little or something when you first have sex. it also did sting to pee the next day. went off though.
USE A CONDOM!
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reader, satindesire  +, writes (23 February 2009):
 You should give yourself about a week to heal before you have sex again. Also, the first few times can hurt a little, but if he takes his time to make you comfortable and fully aroused, then it shouldn't be 'agony'. That's a sign that he was quite impatient and probably didn't try to give you enough foreplay.
You should communicate this with your boyfriend. Women are nothing like men. We aren't aroused and ready for sex in just a few minutes...we need 15-30 minutes of foreplay in order to relax and have enough arousal for comfortable penetration.
Have you ever masturbated to orgasm before?
If you have, show him how to touch your clitoris in the way that you like (90% of women only orgasm with clitoral stimulation alone) so that you can have an orgasm before intercourse. That will help ease the process and make it much more comfortable for you.
Get yourself on hormonal birth control, and keep using condoms. You are too young to think about STIs and babies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): It could be that the lining of your vagina has been torn due to the sex being too vigorous and prolonged or you were not wet enough or both. The acid/ saline content of your urine will aggravate the pain you are feeling as a result. Abstain for a week/ ten days before attempting intercourse again and tell him to go at it more gently - you were a virgin for God's sake! Oh - and don't forget to tell him to use a condom - if you really trust him STD-wise, then at least you should be on the pill.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh, well can it not be anything else?
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reader, lightningrod247 +, writes (23 February 2009):
make sure to drink plenty of fluids next time, pee before hand and directly after. Cranberry supplements also help prevent them.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (23 February 2009):
 Since it was your first time I would guess you were quite nervous (which is common and understandable). You said you guys did it twice. But did you guys do a lot of foreplay? Foreplay is key, especially your first time - it allows your body to prepare for sex; self-lubrication, etc., so that there's not much friction for the man to enter. Not sure about the hurts when you pee.
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reader, lightningrod247 +, writes (23 February 2009):
Congrats you've got a UTI. haha, happened to me the first time too head on over to an OBGYN and they can give you some medication to take care of it. But don't wait cause those things get bad quickly.
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