A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My fiancé ended our relationship kind of out of nowhere and told me he didn't want to get married and was no longer in love with me.This was obviously hard on me because I was in love with him and had my heart set on marriage with him, and eventually children. I always thought that's what we both wanted, but he did not and that's okay. My other issue is I personally don't have any family, (my fathers is deceased, my mom lives elsewhere and has mental issues unfortunately and we don't speak, I don't have any siblings, etc) so my fiancés family was pretty much my family and I loved them dearly. So when we split up, they of course didn't really want anything to do with me anymore.Same with our friends. Him and I both only had a small group of close friends, but most of my friends were his friends, so they naturally went with him after our break up. So I now find myself pretty lonely. I used to spend all of my time with the fiancé and his family/friends, but now I just feel like I'm completely all alone with no true family or friends anymore. It's like my world kind of just did a 180 on me. I wake up everyday and go to work, and come home to nothing now, where as before I always had people around, and most importantly my fiancé. What do you guys think? What would you do if you found yourself in this situation?
View related questions:
fiance, split up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 February 2016):
 I am so sorry that you have found yourself in this situation. I can understand that it must be very difficult for you. Please don't let it bring you down though. The world is a huge place, with lots of wonderful people out there. You just need to make an effort to meet some of them. Be more outgoing at work, make more of an effort to get to know people. Join social clubs, hobbies that interest you. Be positive about this next chapter in your life.
Maybe you could even go visit your mother and reconnect with her. There is no limits to what you can do with your life. It is about what you make off it. I say make the most of it. You have went through a hard time, but wouldn't it be great to come out the other end positive and with a new attitude to life?
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2016): If I were in your situation, I would make friends at work. I'd be extra outgoing and try to make plans with co workers and develop friendships there. Id also reach out to old friends from high school or grade school. I'd talk to my neighbors and try to make friends with them too.I'd also get out there and start dating or just meeting boys. Even if it doesn't lead to anything serious, guys can be fun friends. And dating in itself can give you a new sense of confidence. I think this is actually a good opportunity for you to make your life more interesting and fulfilled. Maybe it's a lesson, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Even if you are in love with someone always be sure to have a life of your own. If that person suddenly isn't around you'll have a lot more to fall back on. Friends and such. So use this as an opportunity to revamp your life.
...............................
|
