Fell in love with a man seeking asylum but he's living a lie!

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi I have been in a relationship with an asylum seeker for a year and a half now. I knew his situation from the start and as much as we tried to avoid it we fell head over heels in love. The problem is (a) he has been refused asylum but can appeal (b) he came here originaly on a student visa and due to circumstances could not financially afford to keep studying and broke his visa. He was caught working illegally here and panicking told immigration a false identity and claimed asylum. I know this is wrong and people will judge him for this but he genuinly is not a bad person and is definatly not wanting to take money off our state. he worked so hard to get here for a better life for himself. he is genuinly the most caring person i have ever met and I would like to marry this man. Thing is what do I do? Get him to admit his lies to immigration and go back home then try marry him to get back over (this option is risky for me as he from muslim country and i would need to kid on i believe in islam). or do I let him appeal this decision and be prepared to live this lie for the rest of my life. Ive been crying and feel sick thinking about this situation its a complete nightmare. Please can I have your opinions? Please also be sensitive to my feelings as I have not done anything wrong apart from fall in love

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