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I'm feeling so needy and pathetic... Help!

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Question - (30 January 2005) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 June 2006)
A , anonymous writes:

I've been with my boyfriend with 9 months, and as we are at seperate universities, we have a long distance relationship, except in the holidays. We normally get on really well, and were best friends before. But recently i've been feeling very insecure, which i've transfered to him, so he's been getting annoyed, because i've been acting all needy, and rather pathetic. He thinks ive been smothering him, so decided we should take a break. I was fine with this at first, but i dont see now how it can help.

My behaviour recently hasnt been me, and ive never been like it before, but if i can't contact him, and let him know, then how is he going to know, and want to continue seeing me? I'm feeling very negative about whats going to happen, and i hate having no control over anything, and don't know what to do. If i tell him all this, he's going to think i am incapable of going back to normal, because i would be acting desperate, and pressurising him, which is the reason for this in the first place. Please can you give me some advice, as its killing me, not knowing what to do.

Thank-you

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2006):

Dump him. Long distance relationships are emotionally unbearable, and almost never work. You will find the majority of your time is spent pining away for someone who probably isn't spending nearly as much time thinking of you!

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A male reader, harshbutfair United Kingdom +, writes (26 August 2005):

harshbutfair agony auntSounds like with you feeling this way, a break is the very best thing that could have happened to you. It may help you to gain some lost perspective over your love and life.

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