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writes:Why is moving on so hard? My ex and I broke up in November and now I found out he has a brand new girlfriend. Even though our romance was short-lived,I'm still heartbroken. I'm doing all that I can to move on. I even unfriended a mutual friend of ours on facebook. I joined a new church, I'm applying for new jobs, I spend time with family and friends, I go on walks, I go to different activities.Yet why does it hurt so bad? I decided to start working out more and giving myself a makeover and I even write stories and journal. But how come this pain won't subside? I know time heals all wounds, but I really miss him and the thought of him not being in my life breaks my heart. I'm now in the acceptance phase of the five stages of grieving and I have been crying everyday. When will this pain end? I even try to forget him and picture him gone, but even that doesn't work. I never had it this bad before. He is an awesome guy and I just hate the way things ended between us. I have not contacted him since November and I definitely don't want to get involved in his life, but it hurts so bad. What are some of the ways that any of you have moved on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your answers. They are helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012): the only thing thats guna make u feel better is time, at the moment the break up is still fresh and quite raw so its normal your not feeling a lot better right now
i had a similar situation with my ex, he found a new girl after a couple of months of us breaking up and it did hurt as i was far from moving on
the advice i can give you is just keep doing what your doing, its ok to feel hurt and upset, dont expect to just feel better in a day, week or a month, just let yourself heal, trust me over time youll get over it and meet someone who is the one for you, ive been through it, you will move on but dont try to rush it, take each day as it comes, im sure each day itll get better
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 December 2012):
 I just let time pass. That's basically it. Cut contact down to a minimum, and not get informed about what they do or who they see. These feelings can last for years, I don't know anyone who actually got over someone in a month. Not when they cared about them.
But there's a difference between completely being over someone, and not feeling the intense pain. The intense pain can last for a while though.
But remember that you are not the same person as you were a few years ago, you will react differently now, than how you reacted back then. The man is also a different one than your past exes, and your feelings towards him were different. So it is only natural that you react differently to this breakup, compared to how you reacted to breakups in the past. Doesn't mean anything other than you are a different person now, and you were with someone else.
Face the facts, you are hurting, and the pain will last for a while. Try to make the best out of things, do what you feel you have the energy to do, but also allow yourself time to mourn the loss and be sad.
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