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writes: My boyfriend has been very distant over the past few months and never has time for me and makes me feel unwanted and there when he wants...What can I do? I've tried to talk to him but it causes an argument...help?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): hes obviously not in love with u anymore and is probibly over with u but has done it the cowardly way :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2005): If you feel this is worth saving then you both need some sort of communication skill. There are plenty around on the net. If you need a blunt answer - kick him into touch. There are plenty out there who will appreciate you and love you and give you the respect you deserve. Good luck hun.{{{{}}}}
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (14 March 2005):
 If even there was a case when you should let someone go, this would be it!He might have been your boyfriend once, but now he sounds like a moody grizzle-guts who doesn't want you around. Okay, since he doesn't want to be around you, by definition, he's not your boyfriend any more. Let him go his own way, so you're free to find someone who appreciates you!It's going to be hard to let go - it always is - but the next time you see him, and he treats you like you're not worth his time, don't badger him to tell you about his feelings. They're out there in plain sight, woman! Tell him that you've noticed that you're not that important in his life any more and since he doesn't have that much time for you, that you think it's better to break it off.The only difference you'll notice after you break up with him is that you'll be officially "free" to take up saucy offers from interested strangers, without guilt.Your soon-to-be-ex boyfriend may change his tune about you, if you're suddenly not there to adore his every move, but from what you've said in your letter, I doubt it. He's not making you happy and you're not pleasing him. He's not making any effort to change things for the better, or giving you any way to make them better, either. So why are you still pining away for him? He sounds arrogant and self-absorbed. Let him go and spend some time learning to love your life without Mr Grumpy dragging you down.
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