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writes: Dear Cupid, I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and 1/2 now, and I really love her. I know that I will always love her in some way or another, but lately I feel like were growing apart. She is my first serious girlfriend, and there have even been talks of marriage. I also feel if I wasnt there for her that she wouldn't finish college and she wouldnt do other things with her life that she should. I am way more motivated than she is and I hate that we differ in this area. I have also had this other friend for the last year and she is eactly what I have always wanted in a girlfriend and I have always thought this way about her. She was single until about 5 months ago when she decided to go back to her x and it really hasnt bothered me what bothers me is the fact that it is obvious that we both have feeling for each other, and we have both stated this (her telling me that she waited 6 months for me to become single and it never happend). I dont know if its the fact that I'm scared that my relationship that I'm in now is getting to serious, or if its that fact that its not the relatioship that I wanted for myself in the first place. second theres the fact that if my girlfriend didnt have me i think that she would have given up on many of the goals that she wants for herself that I help her try to achieve. I am a little confused what should I do about everything. Should I tell my other friend that I have these feeling knowing that shes what I've always wanted or should I just let time take its course and forget about the whole situation? Yours Truely Loving being Confused Reply to this Question
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reader, petal +, writes (11 May 2006):
it wouldnt be fair on you girlf or yourself to put up with a non progressive relationship and then get married only to be unhappy and get divorced in later life. relationships at that stge are about love. if there is no love there is no relatonship. you will always ask yoursel what if?? if you stay with this girl. she can not depend on you to meet her goals she needs to learn to do that. how about you split on good terms with this girl tell her the truth but dont mention the other lass. tell her you feel you have drifted apart and you dnt see a future as you are so different. then mybe have some time alone before you pounce on the other lass. you need to get your head straight first
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