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writes:I'm 21 years old and I fell in love with my second cousin. His father and my mother are cousins. We didn't grow up together. I remember him from when I was 5 or 6 but almost two years ago we met again. We both thought it was weird at first but then we were just so happy it disappeared. Well I few days ago I decided to tell my mom. She completely rejected the whole idea so much was her disappointment that she told me to choose between him and her. Either I stayed at home and she continued to help with college or leave the house to live with him and possibly drop out of college. I told him what she told me. He immediately chose for me. He left me. He said that he would not be the reason why I didn't finish school. The reason for conflict between my mother and I. He told me not to hate her and to look at it as an opportunity to possibly find someone better than him. Someone that could offer me more than he could. This broke my heart. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. This is a man worth fighting for. A man willing to step aside even if it meant losing the most dearest person in their lives. Somehow one way or another we will find each other again.If any of you have been in a similar position, what's your story?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): Well I went to this party!!there he was my mothers cousin he's my age and he is gorgeous he is so cute!!but I dont know I keep thinking off himm a lot and we looked at eachother..i don't know what to do I think I have a crush.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): me and my second cousin always had a crush on each other since we was younger we havent seen each other since like a year we recently started seeing each other last month we exchanged numbers and we began to talk at first we started off as friends i used to tell him my boy problems and he will tell me his problems and then one day we was talking on the phone and i said oh i wish you wasnt my cousin and he said why not and i said because i like you he laughed and said this is crazy cuz i like you i was just afraid to say it i didnt want you to think i was weird lol i said not at all we started messing around he asked me out like 3 weeks ago and i said yes it's so hard because we have to sneek around so that our family wont find out cuz they wont accept it and i just love him so much idk what to do pray 4 me lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): Im 17 at the time.but I was 13 when I first meet my first cousin that had just came from my country. As soon as we saw each other we felt a connection.(literally) we gazed into eachothers eyes for a min. Later that day we began talking and getin to know each other.as the wks went on. I kept seeing him every saturday.I could tell he was fallin for me by the way he acted towards and around me.so we started flirting.but I thought nuting of it. There was a time where my perants bought a new house and the basement was free so his family moved in..(uhh ohh..lol).one day I told him don't fall in love wit me..he said that's to late.I already have.I was supprised.but I knew I liked him as well..days went by and we fell deeper in love ..if ur intrested in hearin what happened during us livin under the same roof let me noe.so tell this day I love my cousin soooooo much....he means the world to me.as I do for him..I LOVE HIM.but family is againts all this.we keep our love a secret!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): hi i have a similar problem, but we are still together... i told her that i would sacrifice anything for her... honestly i dont see anything wrong with loving your first or second cousin... shes actually the love of my life... i am going to see her again soon... she lives in another country... i love her with allll of my heart... she is having second thoughts... we have been together for almost a year now... i told her we could try and ask our parents to see what would happen... she responded and said that she didnt want to have to choose between her mom and i... i respect that... i am hoping the 2 months that i will be with her will change the way she feels... the way your situation is going... he was truly in love with you enough to leave... at the same time i think i would do the same thing... but honestly it would kill me deep down inside... try your hardest to cope with it... finish school and if he comes around again... when you are ready and he is ready,maybe you two can work things out... but live life to the fullest... be happy... because that is exactly what he wants... honestly i hope he comes back to you... but until then live life frugally on surprise... i wish you the best of luck... just dont ever forget his love...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): Abhimen I don't know what to tell you if it's against your religion not much you can do unless your not a strong religious person and neither is she. This will effect how your family sees you and will cause you many problems. Just think really hard about it. If she does have feelings for you in the future and you want to be together are you willing to lose family over your love. Will it all be worth it? You could secretly have a relationship with her but if you want kids then that's where you have to make a big decision. If you both end up loving each other and I mean real love not just lust or infatuation then I give you my blessings and hope the best for the both of you. Love should have no boundaries if you are of mature age and the feelings are 100% real.
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reader, abhimen  +, writes (18 May 2009):
And you dear nothing is more than your love so stop thinking about ever1 else & live your life happily with the person you love the most & plz reply to my question also. Nobody is supporting me, not even my friends nor the ppl from this site,i'm very disappointed.
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reader, abhimen +, writes (18 May 2009):
I've a similar story.I'm in love with my first cousin but the thing is i'm afraid to tell her,what wil she think of me but 1 thing is for sure no other person will take her place my entire life.Also it is forbidden to marry with your cousin in our religion,so what should be the solution if in future she also has the same feeling for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI looked into everything. I cant afford to move out until the end of this year which is when I finish paying for my car. I looked for places in and out of campus where I could stay. I can't live where he lives its too far from school. I've talked to my friends they support me but I cant stay with them for more than a month or so. As far as family goes the only ones that know is my mom, my brother, his dad and his sister and they cant help. The others aren't going to be too happy much less volunteer to help me out. So we are hoping that the second half of this year will go by as quickly as the first.
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reader, Pyro_Dimples +, writes (15 May 2009):
 well it wasn't my second cousin but I was told that I either chose to live with my boyfriend and no longer consider my self apart of my family or to stay and never talk to him again. It was very hard to do but I chose him and realized that I had a lot of people out there willing to help me. Check your resources babe and see what you find. If it is meant to be then it will be. Plus if you do decide to choose him there are tons of scholarships out there and working colleges. Search the internet, they are always giving out free rides. Don't think just because your mother wont pay for it means you can't have it. Keep your chin up and i hope everything works out for you. Feel free to message me if you need to talk further.
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