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male
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:The man that I currently am crushing on is already in a relationship with another man. The other relationship is a long-distance, network-based relationship, which apparently had been in planning for some time. I am located in the same small city as the target of my crush. When I stated my affections to him, I was able to secure a date, regular visits, and even sex. However, he is wary of further sex, as he has feelings for his partner. His networked partner has visited him following a recent plane trip, and is liable to do so in the future on a perhaps a per semester basis.It does not seem ethical to try to take him from this long distance relationship, but I also enjoy spending time with him and would like to have more, well, sex in the near future. As such, I am not interested in ethical analysis - I am wanting to know how the following actions can be carried out. My own morality or lack there of shall dictate my choice of action.How do I stop loving him?OrHow can I get him to love me?
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reader, Annalisa  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Is it love or lust? If you just want more sex, it might be lust. Love is when you want the other person to be happy and are willing to sacrifice your own happyness for their freedom.
You can't just stop or force love. Be friends and see how things go!
If you can't stop wanting him, try not to see so much of him and move on. You'll eventually meet someone else.
As for making him love you, just be yourself, be charming and supportive. He knows how you feel and might realise he'd rather be with someone close to home.
It's all in the hands of the gods, really!
God bless you and good luck!
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