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Fallen for one guy. Like another guy, as just a friend. Both flirting with me. How do I choose?

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Question - (12 February 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 13 February 2015)
A female United States age 26-29, *ia F. writes:

I have ran into a dilemma.

I broke up a guy

I've fallen for a boy a year older than me, in my band, and he's the nicest person I've ever met.

He's helped me through some pretty harsh times.

And there's his friend. In my view, we're like siblings. We love the same books, talk *mostly*about the same things. An I have no attraction to him whatsoever.

Sounds pretty normal, right?

There's a problem hidden here.

The boy I've fallen for, allegedly likes me. And same with his friend.

And they are both hitting on me.

Help!!!

(And what if the boy I'm in love with does not like me back, and his friend does like me?)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2015):

"If you really loved the first, you wouldn't of fallen for the second. So when your in love with 2 people and don't know which one to pick, always choose the second because if you did like the first you wouldn't of fallen for the second."

Yes there is a saying that's very similar to this one.

If you like one as a friend and think you have romantic feelings for the other, then go for the one you got feelings for.

You can also just maintain a close friendship with the other guy, however tell him that you would like to remain friends. (hey it all depends on you.)

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (12 February 2015):

No dilemma here, if you only like a boy as a friend do not date him.

And on the off chance the guy you like doesn't like you, then I'm still not sure what difference that would make. You aren't going to suddenly develop feelings for the other boy, and you are under no obligation to date him. You simply wait for another boy to come along that you do like (and it'll happen!)

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