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writes:heyy ! My relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years ended about a month ago. It really meant alot to me. But we thought that was the best for us. We haven't spoken to each toher since then but today he sent me this mail. I don't know what to reply or what to say to him. I don't know what he's trying to say. Please help me out !!This is the mail he sent me !"hey ----- ,How you been?, i know this is random, but u know i just wanted to say hi and find out how things are going for you? Its funny i had a dream about yea and just woke up to send you this. I really Miss yea, my number is -------, call me sometime please, and i was hoping we could talk a lot still.............i just wanna talk to you, ( i dont even kno what im saying)sorry to disturb yea"Please let me know what you think about it ! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): I understand your pain. I've through something similar. Well if weeks go by and he's not contacting you, that's not a small thing. That tells me that he isn't really that dedicated to the relationship and puts you and the relationship low on his list of priotities. You probably made the right decision in breaking it off.
I guess all you can do at this point is to try to move on with your life.
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reader, sneha_1492 +, writes (13 November 2010):
sneha_1492 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut, He always does this ! I mean after a fight or a break up, he'll send mails to me. And once we start getting back to normal he just disappears. !! Doesn't mail, no calls, nothing ! And it just leaves me feeling confused all over again :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): Your update helped shed light on the situation. I don't understand why, if you care so deeply for each other, you two wouldn't work this out. Long distance romances are painful but they can work. Not talking to each other several weeks at a time, however, was unhealthy for the realationship, and, I'm sure, very painful. In this internet age I see no reason why you two couldn't connect every day. It's not too hard to send an email.
Unforuntately, love comes with pain too, including getting hurt over small things. But, obviously, you both have strong feelings for each other, a true connection. That's why he's writing to you. He can't let you go.
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reader, sneha_1492 +, writes (8 November 2010):
sneha_1492 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe really did love each other. But we just thought it's better for both of us if we break up, cos we were just getting hurt over small small things. Like not talking, not recieving any mails, Not giving enough time to each other, etc. And that frustration of not being able to see each other was always there.. I used to keep getting upset whenever he didn't call, mail, skype, or anything. Sometime's we wouldn't talk for weeks. And I just said I couldn't do it anymore. So he agreed and said that he doesn't want to see me sad even if it meant us not being together.
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reader, tdntuck  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 He misses you and is having second thoughts about the breakup. Don't try to imagine what he's thinking. Follow your own heart...would you truly like to rekindle the relationship or not? Revisit why it ended in the first place...have you both changed or accepted what the problem was?
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reader, sneha_1492 +, writes (8 November 2010):
sneha_1492 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo no it didn't involove cheating. After a year of dating, He went off to New York for college and I'm in Uk now. And we couldn't really make it work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): It would depend on why you two broke up. If it involved cheating, don't contact him. He'll never change.
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reader, sneha_1492 +, writes (8 November 2010):
sneha_1492 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe problem's that I'm REALLY confused :( I still do love him. More than anything, but I'm just scared. I don't wanna get hurt again. And I don't wanna jump back into in if he really doesn't mean it. Ughhhh. This is so confusing. I guess I'll reply after a few days. I do miss him alot but I'm just controlling myself :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): He's done this totally on a whim. Don't respond straight away. If he really wants to talk to you and/or be friends, he will be in touch again.
I had this happen to me a while ago. My ex e-mailed asking me to call him saying he needed to talk to me. I called him and all he did was stir trouble between me and my boyfriend.
Be cautious. You guys broke up for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): He misses you. You're on his mind, and maybe he's questioning the decision to break up. If you still feel something for him and are having second thoughts about breaking up, then reply to him. If you don't want anything to do with him, and still think you made the right decision, then don't contact him even if you feel guilty. If it's over, then you need some distance from him in order to move on.
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reader, sneha_1492 +, writes (7 November 2010):
sneha_1492 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much Cerberus_Raphael !
Lamee, Thanks a lot sweety ! But, the problem is this isn't the first time. I mean he's done this before and then we eventually ended up getting back but then he's just not the same anymore. It's a pretty long story but It's like he takes me for granted. And I end up getting hurt each and every time but then again he apologises and says he'll make up for it, while I fall for that. I don't think I wanna hurt myself once more.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 He obviously misses you and perhaps, even though you both thought breaking up was for the best, he regrets it and he may seek to undo what has been done.
Either that or he seeks friendship, and to that I agree. Why not maintain a friendship with someone you have dated?
I hope that helps.
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reader, lamee  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 hey might be really missing u or maybe he just feeling lonely
its hard to tell u what to say or what to do,,just follow whats ur heart tells u if u don't want to talk to hem then don't hony ,, anyways u can respond to this email so respectfully and tell him how u been and how things r working for u its OK to do that,,but i think u should not go to far with it,, cause he might just feel lonely and u might end with a heartbreak when he find his replacement ,, what i mean exactly don't call him ,, just respond at his email and that's it good luck 3
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