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writes:I still love my ex girlfriend and tried to get her back, but it turned out she was seeing someone new. That's ended, but she won't see me. She said she's too confused and needs time to think. What does too confused mean? Does this mean she doesn't want to get back together and is trying to let me down easy, or does it mean she might but just needs a couple weeks to clear her head? Should I leave her alone to think or try to stay in contact?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2014): Leave her be mate, hardest thing ever if you live love her but the,best thing to do.
I'm confused' could mean either she is still unsure of her feelings towards you or she has another chap interested and wants to see how it goes with him first.
So just get on with your life, if she is bothered she will get in contact with you
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2014): You should go full "no contact" and leave her alone.
She means she needs time to get over you; and wants you to stop bothering her. After a breakup, continuous contact and pursuit of a person is self-torture. If she was seeing someone else, she has already given you proof that she wants to move on. She wants to see other people, and you're just not taking "no" for an answer. Your persistence and desperation confuses her; because she doesn't know how to make you go away!
I know you've been reading all the publications and articles about about trying to win her back. People make a lot of money on human weakness and suffering. You're holding on to false hope, instead of allowing yourself to let go, detach, and starting the healing process.
You don't want her back "confused." You want her to come willingly and gladly; with a clear head about it. If she really wanted you back, she'd come back with no hesitation.
You're going to have to suffer a more; until your mind accepts the breakup. Even if her last relationship ended, she is going to need time to get over that too. If she has had two broken relationships in succession? Coming back is the last thing she wants to do!
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (5 September 2014):
How long has she been broken up? How long were you separated? What was the reason you guys called it quits?
I agree with Honeypie on "there is a reason you broke up". Why would any one what to go and do THAT over AGAIN.
Leave her alone. If she is interested she will contact you. She knows that you are interested in trying over. Just give her the space she needs.
Good Luck:)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 September 2014):
 Yes, leave her be and DO NOT sit around on your hands waiting for her to not be confused.
You two broke up for a reason, maybe what cause the break hasn't been resolved or can't be resolved. Maybe she just wants to be single for a while.
I think if someone say they are "confused" they really saying I don't think I want to get back together. But if I can't get someone "better" I might reconsider. At least that is my take on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2014): She might just be conflicted with how she feels. I would back off a bit and try to see how shes feeling. Good Luck :)
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