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Ex-boyfriend wants me to be friends with his new gf

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Question - (31 May 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 June 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I went out with this man for 5 months and it did not feel right, I did not love him and we are not compatible. Due to his new religion; he tries to tell me what to do and not.

I am an open-minded person and respect everyone but I do not like to be told to convert to something. Anyway I told him we are finished, he begged to remain friends so I agreed as I wanted to be amicable.

He went to another country and he called me. He was rented from this lady who is from where I originally come from. She asked for my phone and I was put in a position to give it to her but I did not want to. I find it difficult to say 'no' to people.

Should I be friends with them?????

Anyway she called me few times and she kept asking me to take him back and asked a lot of questions about him and she said many bad things about him.

After 2 phone calls I decided that I do not want to be involved in gossip and back stabbing so I made excuses of not being well. She kept calling so I ignored her.

He sent me a text telling me to call her and talk to her, I replied that I do not like to be told what to do and I am not feeling well.

She sent me photographs of herself with him, in the meantime he sent a very nasty post card. I ignored him as I did not want to stoop down to his level.

So I indirectly made comments about meeting new people in his new place. then he sent me email telling me that he has been with her since the day he rented from her which was 4 May 2013. I am fine with that as I had broken up with him.

But I did not like about his email was that he was telling she is much better person, much more beautiful than I am and she is everything I am not. and he wants me to be friends with her and him as he is brining her to UK.

I felt that he seemed bitter to tell me all these nasty things that I am. if he had said that she is a fantastic, beautiful lady, etc I would not have been offended. but I thought that he had the nerve to tell me that I must stay friends with both of them after telling how nasty and horrible I am.

In the past to get rid of him I have said to him that he deserves better, it is me not him. just to be amicable.

I do not want to get involved with neither of them. I like to follow 'no contact rules'. I do not understand why he says these things, by the way I have not told him anything about what she said about him, as far as I am concerned a: he will not believe me, b: she was trying to egg me on to say things so that she can repeat to him.

He is puzzled why I am not talking to her.

Am I wrong not to want to be friends with either of them.

I sent him a text in reply to his email. I said "Good luck to you, please do not contact me again"

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A female reader, AuntyEm United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2013):

AuntyEm agony auntThis all sounds really weird to be honest!!

If you do not want to have anything more to do with this very controlling man and his weird girlfriend then block them and move on with your life!!

It all sounds like some bizarre game and you could be in danger. Do as the previous aunt said...log any contact and contact the police if they harrass you.

You can learn how to block people on your phone from your service provider...or just change your number and e-mail address.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2013):

I am the writer of this article; how do I block them on Iphone?

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A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2013):

oldbag agony auntHi

Block his and her email address and change your phone number. You have no need to have contact with either of these two, you are single and the relationship with him is finished. He sounds weird to me.

If he does return to the UK, with or without her and starts to bother you, log it all and inform the Police immediately.

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