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writes:I split up with my boyfriend of 2years, 7months ago, because we were in a long distance relationship between the US and UK and he cheated on me. We still speak now and again via email and Facebook but that's about it. Last night we were talking because I've left some stuff over there i need back, and Christmas came into the conversation. He said he's really down about Christmas because he is spending it alone. His family aren't talking to him because hes extended his stay as a Medic for the marines and doesnt want to go home, and they're unhappy about it. His friends either are married, have children or are spending christmas with their family so he is literally alone for christmas, no dinner, no presents nothing. Last year he had christmas with my family and he loved it because i have a big family and we spent it all together. I felt really bad when he told me he'd be alone and i invited him over, if he can afford it. He was pretty suprised i invited him because I ended our relationship bitterly. However much hes an asshole, i dont think anybody should have to spend christmas alone. My family welcomed him back over, as they too feel the same as me. Am i doing the right thing? Or does he deserve to be alone?
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reader, Share Bear  +, writes (15 December 2010):
 I don't think anyone 'deserves' to be alone, Christmas or whenever. Whether he deserves to be with you or not after how he's treated you is another matter...
But I DO think that you are a very lovely and kind hearted person- and the same of your family. I don't think that you have anything to fear from him either way. You are surrounded by a warm and loving family. In this sense you are living the high life and can move on emotionally from him whether you extend a Christmas olive branch to him or not. (You do not 'owe' him this at all- but it is very kind of you to offer it!)
If you remain this warm hearted and kind towards those around you, I think that you will soon have a more caring Prince Charming to bring home to your family anyway!
I hope that you find the man you deserve very soon! xx
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Do you still have feelings for this guy, are you looking to rekindle the romance? I agree Marines can be real jerks.
Let me point out that he chose to extend his stay as a medic and is choosing NOT to go home and spend time with his family. So he's purposely spending Christmas alone, that's his choice. Personally, I would let him spend Christmas by himself. If he wanted to he could go home and spend time with his family.
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reader, meestal  +, writes (12 December 2010):
Let the guy be, literally leave him alone.
If he craves the benefits of being with you so much -- why can't he deliver the things you look for in a relationship, e.g. monogamy?
Think about it, you will come to agree.
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