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writes:OK so things have usually gone pretty well for me and things have come relatively easy for me all of my life... until now. Lately it is like i am under some kind bad luck spell, because everything I try to do just keeps falling apart. My relationship is deteriorating right before my eyes. I was fired from my job that I loved. Last week I got a ticket after going forever never having had one. My kids have suddenly gotten lippy, appliances and things keep breaking at home, I make plans and they get cancelled, my car is falling apart - heater core something that is making it overheat and wet on the floor board...my ACE KEEPS BREAKING OUT, I went on 3 interviews for the same job and they picked somebody else... and even the dog doesn't seem to mind me anymore. What the hell? I keep trying to stay positive but can't help wondering if there is something I have done to deserve this. I seriously don't know how much more I can take of everything going wrong. How does a person deal with it when life keeps throwing you punches? I don't know how to live with constant non stop disappointment. I was told I was spoiled, and what would I do if I had a real problem... but I don't think that's really fair. I have worked very hard for everything I have. In school i studied and did my homework... that is why my grades were good...isn't that the way things are supposed to go? Do I not have the right to expect good things to come tome for my efforts? Reply to this Question
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (12 June 2011):
when everything seems collapsing suddenlyusually there are big and happy surprises aheadso keep your good work and your positive thinkingyou will get over it eventuallyGood Luck
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 You HAD good things come to you .
You've got kids, normal healthy kids that suddenly got lippy because at a certain age all kids get lippy. You have acquired skills and competences which allowed you to hold a job and will allow you to get another one even if just 3 previous atttempts did not go well. You got a lifetime free of tickets until last week, which is nearly unheard of. You've got enough money to buy a whole lot of modern appliances, that occasionaly break down and deteriorate like all appliances do. You got a relationship, that you may need to work on and fix- but at least you can do that rather than being alone and forlorn.
Life is not throwing you malicious punches with the intent to bring you down because you did something wrong. Life is doing its usual job of being fluctuating, impermanent and challenging, YOUR job is that of appreciating what you have without going crazy about what you don't have, of fixing what you can fix and come as serenely as possible to terms with what can't be fixed.
There is no satisfaction with perfectionism , and no joy without gratitude.
If you normally feel so entitled and so deprived, no wonder that even the dog prefers to keep its distance...
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 Top issues, new job, new radiator.
Bottom issues, relationship, kids, dog.
Car to get to new job. Roof over your head and your kids is priority. Dogs will be dogs, kids will be kids, and men will be men. Relationships fluctuate like the tides these are issues that you need to just float around for the next while.
Think of stress as something you thrive on. Chaos as something you eat for breakfast. Fear is your drug of choice now. Roll with it.
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