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Everything feels GREAT, but none of my partners has ever made me "come".

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Question - (5 October 2007) 15 Answers - (Newest, 22 January 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, *xAngelDust89xX writes:

I have had three boyfriends, but now I am married and my husband is intent on making me "come". Everything feels GREAT, but none of my partners has ever made me even come close, except for with clitorial stimulation. Even when I do get to THAT point, and I think I'm going to It HURTS!!! I have tried stimulating myself, but I get the same results!!! Is there something wrong with my plumbing?

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XxAngelDust89xX

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (22 January 2008):

rcn agony auntIt's about time. lol. Take care.

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A female reader, XxAngelDust89xX United States +, writes (22 January 2008):

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XxAngelDust89xX agony auntII DID IT! My husband and I have done what I thought was not to be! I finaly came for the first time a few weeks ago! (Would have posted eariler but I was having trouble with my lil girl) And Holy Cr@p was it.....yea...wow...I don't evn know who to discrive this but belive me I can not BELIVE I sadi i could live wiht out that!!!

Hehe!

XxAngelDust13xX

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (10 October 2007):

rcn agony auntI tend to be shy about sex too, but you left yourself open, and I just had to take it.

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A female reader, XxAngelDust89xX United States +, writes (10 October 2007):

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XxAngelDust89xX agony auntL.O.L., RCN.

You do have a point.

And, yes, I am an Extremely lucky woman, I have the sweetest man in the world. He is perfect, in my eyes, and always has me striving to do my very best for him, which is what prompted my question in the first place, my desire to make him happy. If it wasn't for his determination I never would have opened up long enough to ask such a personal question. I tend to be very shy about sex, and he is showing me that there's no need for that.

Thanks again!!

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (8 October 2007):

rcn agony auntYou should feel lucky. How many women have a husband who's mission is to give his wife an orgasm? You usually here of guys, the whole 2 minutes, if that, leaving their partner to wonder "what about me".

This has been strange. It's almost like we're your orgasmic cheering section. lol

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A female reader, XxAngelDust89xX United States +, writes (8 October 2007):

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XxAngelDust89xX agony auntThanks.

She said that I probably am not really relaxing, and that you have to be TOTALLY limp noodle for that to happen. She said that if I tense up, then it will hurt. She said that is actually normal to have diffficulty with that,and that only (estimate) about 2% of women actually have a real preoblem down there she said keep trying, but don't try too hard, She told me to relax and enjoy, and not to worry about whether or not its going to happen. She said that it will make it more special if it is a surprise, and once i finally do, it will get easier as i go along.

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (8 October 2007):

rcn agony auntGood luck at the Doc.

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (8 October 2007):

rcn agony auntGood luck at the Doc.

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A female reader, XxAngelDust89xX United States +, writes (8 October 2007):

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XxAngelDust89xX agony auntHmm. Well, I am headed of to the doc tomorrow to see what she thinks, but I belive I am just gonna let it happens when it does and not worry about it. I do agree though, about the stress thing. I am 37 wks pregnant so it might just be i am under too much stress to TRULY relax. So we are just gonna contiune to enjoy each other and hey maybe nature will surprise me!! Ill lwt yall know what my OB/GYN says though and thank you so much for all of your wonderful advice!!!

XxAngelDust89xX

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (6 October 2007):

rcn agony auntI would still see what the possible cause of the pain is. For a period I had pain too, lower ab area, right before. Very dull throbbing pain.

I went to the hospital a couple of months ago because I thought I has having a heart attack, and my daughter grounded me from my ice cream until I went, It turned out to be anxiety, and that anxiety was the same thing that was causing my pain during sex.

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A female reader, XxAngelDust89xX United States +, writes (6 October 2007):

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XxAngelDust89xX agony auntThank you all for your input.

My husband is actually being quite nice about the whole thing. He's not being pushy, he just LOVES pleasing me, and that supposed to be the ultimate. He says that if it never happens then it never happens and its okay with him as long as i dont mind. (Hey, u can't miss what you've never had) The only reason I ask is because it is something that i really would love to experience with him, and i really just don't get why it's so dang hard, lol. We have tried all sorts of stimultation, positions, speeds, toys, videos, everything and nothing seems to work.

(oh, and by the time i get even halfway to that point there isn't a thought in my head but how good it feels!!! I'm not even thinking about comeing until it starts to hurt)

thanks again!!

XxAngelDust89xX

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A female reader, XxAngelDust89xX United States +, writes (6 October 2007):

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XxAngelDust89xX agony auntIn response to Uncle Phil:

Thanks for the response.

WE have tried going beyond that point(By myself and with my husband) and it just starts to hurt worse.

Any thoughts?

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (5 October 2007):

rcn agony auntIs it the area that is being stimulated that is painful, or somewhere else, like as the body is preparing for the explosion?

With his mission do you think about what you want the outcome to be, or do you just relax and enjoy? Trying too hard can delay it from happening.

There are quite a few women who don't cum with penetration. They do with clitoral, oral, sometimes getting the magic G spot just right. The may during penetration if real four play has gotten them close prior to the sex.

I wish your two luck with your mission. Take care.

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (5 October 2007):

rcn agony auntIs it the area that is being stimulated that is painful, or somewhere else, like as the body is preparing for the explosion?

With his mission do you think about what you want the outcome to be, or do you just relax and enjoy? Trying too hard can delay it from happening.

There are quite a few women who don't cum with penetration. They do with clitoral, oral, sometimes getting the magic G spot just right. The may during penetration if real four play has gotten them close prior to the sex.

I wish your two luck with your mission. Take care.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007):

Like Freddie Mercury once sang - 'pain is so close to pleasure'.

Are you perhaps confusing the two? Try and go just that little bit further when you feel it 'hurting' - and let us know how you get on!

Phil

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