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30-35,
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writes:I've known this girl for six months now. She's intelligent, beautiful, funny, compassionate, cheerful, and just the right touch of nerdy. She and I are college students. We're three years apart, but in most respects, we're perfectly compatible. Same interests, beliefs, sense of humor, friends, similar career aspirations. We hang out whenever possible, have pretty deep conversations, and many of our friends have said we'd make a great couple. (My best friend even asked a few months ago, "Why aren't you two dating yet?" However, the road to such an outcome is rocky at best.I asked her out about a month in. She told me that she had about five guys into her. She told them all no, but I got a maybe. She said she could see herself with me, but she's afraid she wouldn't be able to responsibily balance school and a relationship. She did tell me to keep her "at the top of the list." Since then we've done plenty with friends, even gone out a couple of times. I have never connected with anyone like i have with her. In fact, I don't think I'm far from love. I know she likes me, but she insists that dating is a bad idea. My question is, a) how do I convince her that we could work and she could still keep up with school, and b) should I even try? Any feedback is appreciated.
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reader, johannabanana +, writes (18 July 2010):
 B) you should you even try?
My response; yes of course. Nothing in life comes easy and maybe she is just afraid that being with you could distract her from the goals of school she has. From a Lady's prospective I would say it certainly sounds that she is interested in you, otherwise I'm sure she would have found a nice way to say she only sees you as a friend. Try telling her that you guys could just hangout like you always have and call it a date. Assure her that if things are becoming a problem for her or distracting her you guys can simply go back to being friends.
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