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*eal Love 32
writes:Ok ,I am not with my ex and he is with someone else. i love him and miss him. Everyone is telling me that I should fight to get him back. I have spoken to him and told him how much I love him. i even asked him if he loves me he says that he wont say if he does or don't. I asked if he has feeling, on the first meeting he said that he threw them all out the window, now he he said that he put them in a box and put them away. I get confused at times. recently I called him to tell him happy b-day. Immediately when he got on the phone at his work he said happy b-day to me with excitement (we both share the same b-day). Then after that I asked if we could meet up again and he was like I don't know then he said that I am pushing to be friends and that he is not friends with his ex's because it causes problems in his relationship. Mind you when we were together he did not communicate with any of his ex's at least not to my knowledge. Why was he meeting with me? Should i fight to get him back even though he is with someone? I hurts every time I meet him and days after i always feel depressed. I love him. I just need to get some real advice. Help please!!
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reader, MsVick +, writes (7 November 2010):
 You can't get him back of he doesn't want to come back. I would say give him his space and let him figure it out. That may mean he won't come back so be prepared for it.
Good luck
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (7 November 2010):
There's a reason he's your ex and not your current boyfriend. When he said he doesn't keep in touch with exes because it's bad for a relationship, he was telling you to leave him alone and let him live his life. If he still had feelings for you he wouldn't have said "I don't know" when you proposed to meet up.
Sorry but everything in your post says he's moved on but doesn't want to rub it in your face because he realizes you still like him. The reason people tell you to get him back is because he is a decent guy (judging from your post). Now be a decent girl and cut your losses so you too can move on.
Heartbreak is always hard. But right now, moving on is the best thing you can do if you don't want to have him end up resenting you. You can't always get what you want in life, unfortunately. I also suggest that you refrain from dating for awhile until you are completely over him. That way, when you meet someone new who rocks your world, you don't have that baggage dragging you down.
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reader, Real Love 32 +, writes (7 November 2010):
Real Love 32 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes I think i will not fight for him. Its to much. Majority of the answers do suggest to move on and I thinks its the best one. Yes he is with a new dude and i will be ok with that and move on. Thanks to you all for your comments and feed back.
Take good care,
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reader, SavannahR +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Honestly im just saying you should fight for what you believe in and if you looove your EX and who ever treats you better imean Follow your heart and not peoples
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 I think he is trying very gently to let you know the relationship is over. When he said he is not friends with his ex's because it causes problems in his relationship he was giving you a big hint.
When he said he wouldnt say if he has feelings or not he didnt want to cause you any more pain.
I think fighting to get him back is simply going to drag this out for too long and that you will end up making him hate you.
Far better to accept what is and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): The fact he is with someone else should tell you that he is not sincere. This type tend to only end up hurting again and again. The grass is always greener. Do yourself a good turn and get someone less easily distracted who's life isnt a cycle of temtation.
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reader, LoveKillzSlowly +, writes (6 November 2010):
Hey there :)Dont be depressed my friend...All this shows he is confused between you and his gf...If u push n u tell the person "love me"... u cant make a place in someones heart n the person wont love u with all his heart...N he dint contact u...u did...Try n distract ur mind from him...i dont think he cares about ur feelings so much,Find smeone who loves u n understands ur feelings...A relationship always needs understanding...no matter its ur ex...n if its not there it means that one doesnt bother nonly thinks about themself Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): I think you should back off because at the end of the day he has a girlfriend. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but it's really not fair on her if you try and get between them.He might have asked if you wanted to meet up sometime out of politeness? It sounds like he's moved on and unless he dumps his current girlfriend, don't even think about trying to win him back because i guarantee it will back fire.
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