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writes:im really scared for my friends safety and i dont know what to do. i used to try the soft approach but ive now started telling her exactly how it is and she is still being so stupid.She is 22 and has had 67 sexual partners. we live together and every week she brings home a new strange man she has just met on a night out. she has unprotected sex with them all. im worried she is going to get a disease. ive had to support her through 6 pregnancy scares!!the other day we went out and she refused to come home with me and our other friends. we couldnt force her so had no choice but to leave. well it turns out she got in a taxi with 3 men she didnt know and brought them all back to OUR flat. now these men could have attacked her and once they were in our flat they could attack me or steal our stuff. who knows!!! she didnt even know their names!!!!!!i cannot stand to see her acting so stupidly. ive had enough of supporting her through it and have had a big argument with her and now she wont speak to me. She is putting her life at risk and putting me in a dangerous situation by bringing strange men into my home!!ive told her straight and she still continues. she has absolutely no self respect and i dont know what to do. I should just walk away but we live in the same flat (i cant leave because i have no money, we are uni students sharing halls) and she is dragging me into the dodgy situationHELP!!!! xx
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 There's prbably no nice way to put this to her, so don't try. You need to look at your safety first. Get out of there ASAP - am sure you can find another room-mate if your look. Talk to the landlord/university official in charge. I know she's your friend and stuff, but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Do you know this girl's family? If you do, speaking to her parents may not be a bad idea.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 She is beyond help and you need to report to those people who are in charge of those homes about the situation.
Your life is in great danger if she brings home a murderer or a rapist.
Try to find some temporary place to stay until she is kicked out from that home.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): Is it possible to talk to whoever runs your accommodation at uni? I'm sure you could talk to them confidentially about it and hopefully get a transfer because your safety has to come first! It might take her a while to work through her reasons for doing this - especially unprotected?! - and you can try and help her with it, but you need to be safe. Maybe even telling her that you don't want to but you will get a transfer might help.
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