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writes:why can't i just be happy? i always have to worry about something. i hate it. i'm like a big stress ball. and it wont go away.. i take anxiety medicine from my doctors. but it clearly doesn't work.. my doctors don't know that and my mom doesn't. i always tell my mom i'm stressed but when she asks i don't feel like explaining. some times its not even anything. and other times there's so much stuff going on i can't handle it.. i feel like even if they give me meds they're not going to work, i'm always going to be stressed no matter what. and when i feel like this i don't wanna do anything. i just wanna roll up in a ball in the corner. i don't know what to do with myself! what should i do because it kills..? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni've been to a counselour.. i tried to talk to them but it didn't help at all. if anything, it made things worse. but thank you everyone, i will try my best.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (17 December 2008):
 Have you been to a counsellor? I don't get why many doctors just fill people up with medication and drugs...Just talking to someone who you can vent to, and can help you make sense of how you're feeling can do the world of good. As your GP to refer you :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): You have received good advise. I want leave the following quotes with you, read them and think about them.
"We do have a choice, but not without some agony". (Josephine Hart)
"Man shapes himself through decisions that shape his environment". ( Rene DuBois)
Very important:
" I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by CONSCIOUS endeavor". (Henry David Thoreau).
Your life, your choice!
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reader, Crafter  +, writes (17 December 2008):
 Hah! You're one step closed to solving it. And the painful truth is that anxiety never really goes away completely. You're gonna have to accept that. Once you do, you'll be on your way to recovery.
I use to worry way too much. For years I thought that that's just who I am, but then it backfired and I started fighting it. Being passive and afraid to stand up for yourself will often bring you to more suffering, more frustration and eventually depression. The bad kind.
The best way to deal with this is to fight your problems. If you evade them, thinking that they are resolved, all you get is a pile of stuff that needs to be dealt with anyway only now they much more.
So start working on that. You've got problems at school - fix 'em. Bad grades? Start studying. Your social skills suck? Well, improve them!
It's the damn 21st century and you've got all the info you could ever need right there on your monitor. Whatever issues is it that you've got, it can be resolved.
Start with baby steps. Set small goals and remember that the first step is definitely the hardest.
I've been there and I'm pretty sure I know how you feel. Believe me - the sooner you learn to stand on your two feet, the better.
Best of luck.
PS. Get off the meds for a while and see how you handle things. I'm willing to bet my good eye that you can manage without any drugs - I did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): Sometimes meds don't help, and even the doctors know that. Do your own research on other ways to handle stress and anxiety.
Look it up. Learn about relaxation. Eat healthy foods, get excercise, pray, go to church or observe the Sabbath.
If you have a Bible, read it. (If you don't, look up free Bibles online. It can help.)
Alternative health doctors suggest learning relaxation, using food and excercise to help with stress and anxiety. For all people under 18, it is a normal part of life. It's part of growing up into an adult-it means you are normal for your age.
Look into learning about learning to be more positive, happy, and optimistic. It is something everybody can learn.
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