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13-15,
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writes:I'm really interested in this guy and he likes me too, but everyone says he's a player and is only after one thing, but even if he is i don't really mind because i'm more sexually attracted to him anyway (before anyone rushes to judge me, i've been throughh a lot and emotionally and psychologically grown up too quickly so please don't judge me about the age thing, it's not the advice i'm after) it's difficult to explain to other people, someone help me decide what to do. there is also an age difference, so if we were together people would think it was sick. i know the law and i know all the safety facts. the only question is, even if i like this guy in the same way he likes me will i still feel hurt and used afterwards? please help me.
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reader, swiss army romance  +, writes (1 September 2007):
 There is no need to get too emotionally attached, if you continue to tell yourself that it is just physical attraction and nothing more. Atleast for a short whyle you shouldn't feel too used, the longer it carries on the greater the chance of growing attached and then getting hurt. Make sure you realise that if it is 'just sex' then it is likley that he will not act like a boyfriend and there is a good chance he may flirt with other girls. If you do however find yourself becoming emotionally involved then i would advise talking to him about it, his feelings may also have grown. But do not continue pretending it is just physical if it becomes emotional too, as then chances are, you will get hurt.
Apologies if this is of no use but i hope it helps x
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reader, bemused  +, writes (1 September 2007):
 Hi there.
You write well for a fifteen year old. A good rule of thumb is that if you are having all these second thoughts and wondering about it...make it simple and do not do it. You cannot undo something once it is done. There are two many posts on this site asking the same question as you and as a result we get posts from people who have been hurt as a result. Deejuliet is spot on in that people think they can keep their emotions separate but most of the time...there is heartache. Hope this helps.
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reader, deejuliet  + ♥, writes (1 September 2007):
 Yes, absolutely it will hurt like hell. You may think right now that it is just a sexual attraction and if you enjoy each other physically but dont get involved emotionally it will all be fine. It just never works that way! You will get emotionally attatched even though you dont want to and dont think you will and you will be crushed when he doesnt reciprocate.
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