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Embarrassed because I've never had a relationship

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Question - (22 October 2010) 9 Answers - (Newest, 31 October 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

i'm 16 nearly 17 and i never had a relationship and its getting to the point where i cant tell know one because i feel imbarassed to tell my friends and family except my mum who understands.I do want a relationship but know one has ever taken an iterest in me because i'm a size 16 and all the guys round my age are interested in skinny girls and i get to the point where i cant talk to know one because i'm scared they will ask me about previous boyfriends and i can't say i never had one and i'm to scared to talk to guys scared they won't like me .I just feel like i'm the only one around my age thats still a virgin .I keep telling people i'm looking for a nice guy just to stop the questions .i'm a really nice person .what should i do about my situaton?.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010):

Im 20, never been in a relationship or even had sex. So dont feel bad

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010):

Actually, most girls don't get into their first relationship until they are 16-18.

OK, some may have constant male attention, may kiss, even sex etc.

So don't worry about it. If you are 22 in the same situation you can begin to be slightly worried about it.

As for Virginity... and your size. Nothing wrong with it. If it scares the guys who just want to use you... thats a good thing. Trust me, most girls (minus the school popularity nonsense) wont lose it until they are 18-19, although some might do before and even as silly as aged 12 etc.

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A female reader, hazy Canada +, writes (23 October 2010):

TRUST ME! not worth settling for anyone, and don't be embarrassed! i'm 18 and i regret pretty much all my relationships(3)before the one i am in now. I realise now that i was only in those relationships because some guy said he liked me.. i didn't really like them but, and only dated them cause it made me feel good to be liked. but none of the relationships lasted long and weren't the way they should have been. Trust me it is a lot more worth it to wait until you actually find someone who you like and who really likes you! And don't worry about your weight, the more curves you have the sexier you should feel, women are supposed to have curves. and most guys only date the skinny girls cause they feel like they have to at their age, give it time and you will find someone who will love you for who you are and will think you're the most beautiful girl in the world. and if i had the choice of being skinny or being curvy i would choose curvy!! so love who you are and be confident with what you have, when the time comes you'll find someone, until then have fun!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010):

sweethrt dont worry about it too much. Ur not alone. Size 16 isnt that bad for a start. I no ur prob sick of hearing this but mr right is on his way some ppl just have to wait a little longer. And as for ur virginity? Save it for some1 you love and b proud that u didnt throw it away and waste it on some loser who didn deserve it.

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A male reader, $izZle India +, writes (23 October 2010):

$izZle agony aunthi, don't worry about your size well I've been waiting for the right girl and I'm 28 now never kissed a girl nor had any relationship ..... its not like I don't wanna have. I would in fact love to have a relationship but I'm just waiting for the right girl hey I really don't a #&*$ about the girls size as long as she loves me and wants me for who I'm ... Its so hard to find a girl like that :( but I'm not giving up hope.

Well I'm planning on going to London to do my Masters zZz which will take another 3 years approx haha that would mean when I start looking for Ms right for me again ill be 28+3=31-32 years old :P and still a virgin :S hey! w8 a min are you trying to tell me I should be worried about this :O

haha ....

seriously there is nothing I would want more than to have a loving relationship with a girl :(

but I just don't see that happening ....

you are still 16 almost 17 that's great you are young smart and energetic you have a long way to go till you hit 28 :P

Nothing is Impossible if you put your mind to it :)

go get em tiger ;)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010):

Dont settle for anybody. You should just wait for the right guy to come along, and trust me he will come, it might not seem like it to you now, but im posotive, and so should you. Be glad of yourself that you havent lost your virginity to just some meaningless guy. Guys like girls with confidence [and havent slept with a bunch of guys]. Dont worry, thers no rush, be yourself, and it doesnt matter what a persons size is, because we are all beautiful in our own special ways. I hope I have helped and I wish you the best of luck. :]

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010):

Hun I'm 16 and I've never even kissed a guy yet and I'm a normal size 12,tonnes of guys have asked me to go out etc but I'm waiting for the right guy and it's the honest truth! Someone amazing will come 'round for you! You just have to be patient! I have seen loads of guys who have dated girls a size 14 and up! If you are truly unhappy with your size then do something to change it,I started the gym a few months ago because I wasn't completely happy with my shape,but now that if lost a few pounds ive never felt better,I'm not saying you should lose weight to fit in because I would hate to be stick thin! Curves are in! Be happy with who you are,be confident! Guys find confidence for sexy! So go for it girl!

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A male reader, Theoir Germany +, writes (22 October 2010):

I am 20, male, and have never had a girlfriend, or sex.

Anyway, lose weight if you don't feel comfortable with your size. You don't need to be skinny. You need to feel good about yourself, because your self-image is the first thing people see. It's present in your entire body language.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010):

I understand... I am also 16 and have never had a boyfriend/relationship... Honestly, if you're size is an issue to anybody than they aren't good enough for you. A nice guy is someone that excepts you for who you are inside and out. Also, don't be ashamed of never being in a relationship, it just means that you have more class and are interested in waiting for the right person.

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