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writes:iv been in a relationship for around 8 months and i love the guy im with to pieces. during the 8 months we've been on and off and during a period while we were off, my bf had a one night stand with some girl and he did make me aware of this.we are off at the minute and he told me he has recently found out that the girl he slept with is pregnant. and its his. he has recently started to text me and wants to get back together. i love him more than anything in the world so do i get back with him? i don't know if i want to get between the two of them now that this girl is pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): Same thing happen with my ex bf. But the best thing is to brake up because if he honestly loved you wouldnt have got some girl pregnant. I totally understand you love him but sometimes we have to let the things we love free. Since i been in this position i can tell you that you dont want to be caught between no baby momma drama. You just need to leave him and let him go and if its ment to be it will all work out.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 EWWW! Get away from him! Get away, get away, get away!How do you think she got pregnant? He just had risky, meaningless, unprotected sex. He should be focusing on his new son or daughter, how he's going to support them, yet he's wanting to get back together with you like this life altering, life changing event never took place.Add to that the fact that he now has unbelievable baggage now. You're 13-15! You should not have to deal with this! Find a guy who is a lot more stable and responsible, or you could be pregnant with his second child. I guarantee he'll bolt away from you at the first sign as well.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 March 2011):
 No, all you're doing is preventing yourself from finding a partner with whom you can be happy. On/off relationships are that way because they AREN'T WORKING! Why not try to find a relationship that will actually work?Real relationships aren't on/off, especially not multiple times in only 8 months.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (22 March 2011):
Let me ask you, why, oh why, do you want to get back with a bf who's in a pile of trouble? At your age, you should be having fun in school, participating in the extracurricular activities, enjoying the sports offered at your school, finding a pretty prom dress, and looking to the future and all it offers in this day and age! For all you know, you may be partaking in a space trip in years to come. For now, you do not need a bf who would impregnate another young woman and then weasel out of his responsibility to her by asking to come back to you! Count your blessings that it isn't you. What a young woman decides to do about a carrying a child at such a young age will determine the path she will walk for the next two decades or so. You surely do not want to "love a guy to pieces" and tie up your emotions at such a young age. For now, my suggestion is to close out the boyfriend and this chapter of your life and move forward. He made a huge mistake and it's not up to you to solve his problem - nor to take him back. Where does his responsibility to the young woman stop and start? Think of this.
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