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writes:Dating a guy for two months. He was totally into me at the beginning, but I wanted to go slow. He said all the right things and I fell, hard, for him.. All of the sudden he needed time alone and space, it really freaked me out.. I thought I was giving him space and time, but I started to feel unwanted and was getting upset! One night I got drunk and told him it was over and best of luck in his search.. I immedidately felt horrible and went over to his apartment to apologize and he said I backed him into a corner. He will not forgive me, says that if he does he is afraid that I will change and not tell him when something is wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): I had a similar situation to this.....guy was all over me, perfect guy and ideal father to my child and so trusting and kind. I suggested slowing down a little and he was the perfect guy as he respected my suggestion. We text a bit, a few calls then he disappeared! Total no interest at all. I know he is there because he answers his phone. I can't explain his behaviour! Just let this go now, I spent 3 months hoping mine would at least acknowledge me but not a whisper!! xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 June 2008):
 That guy has lost interest.
Nothing to be gained by chasing after him.
It would only be a waste of time and efforts.
Leave him alone.
If he comes for you , then he is yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): you bruised his heart as well ad his ego... his pride won't let him forgive you...
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (9 June 2008):
 In my view, this is not meant to be. If he was sincere about building on a relationship with you, he would have tried to understand where you were coming from. Only a small glimpse we can see from what you've said but it does seem to me that he is trying to control things. When you do give someone time and space you do start to feel "unwanted" and confused about what is going on. When you add the alcohol, you really do lose sight of what is going on and you do say things you might regret. Yes, it is too bad that you couldn't have gone to him and said...I feel....but you didn't. I think this is not the man for you. He didn't try to understand what you were feeling so cut your losses and move on. I suspect that even if you did come at him the way he would have liked that there would have been some other reason for him to back away.
Let him go and find someone who wants the same things as you, at the same time. I know it's hard but better to cut your losses now than to find a way to get him back only to be in this same perdicament a year from now.
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