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writes:This problem is several fold so I guess I'll ask one part at a time rather then all at once 1) I love a boy (pretend his name is Dylan) so I've known him since basically infancy as his family and my friends are rly close and I was always at my friends house. So I started living him about 3 yrs ago, we have a bunch in common and talk forever and we went out and when I was with him I was so happy and I felt so loved. But the first 2 times we dated we broke up for reasons that weren't about each other but instead our own insecurities so a yr after we found we still had feelings and started hanging agian but I was with another boy (call him alex). So at one point I just couldn't deal bcause I luved em both and so me and alex broke up after we decided it's best but since he didn't seem to care I decided dating Dylan would b okay. Soon alex asked me out agian and it ended up that I'm with alex now. Alex nos I still love Dylan but he nos I won't dump him agian since dylan has a gf and also I've dated him 3 times now and I figured it's been enough times and idk if he still likes me and I kind of don't want to know. How do I get over this Dylan? He's so perfect to me but I want to luv alex with all my heart and not worry about if Dylan happened to ask me out agian(though i no it won't happen but you know...) sorry it's so long!!!!Thank you(no ones real name was used haha)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Just give yourself time. There is no one way to get over someone just give yourself time, and concentrate on building your life with Alex.
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reader, Inutashy +, writes (3 March 2011):
Inutashy is verified as being by the original poster of the question just to clarify, i love alex, and i dont want to go out with dylan agian cuz its just not meant to be, i just dont no how to get over him for good so that i only love alex. The reason it didnt work wit me and dylan is because i couldnt be without alex
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (3 March 2011):
I guess you just need to accept now that Dylan has moved on with his life and you need to do the same as well. It sounds to me like you are only with Alex because you cant have Dylan and this is not a good start to any relaitonship it may end in him getting really hurt. You ask how can you love Alex but you can not force yourself to love someone, either the connection is there or not. You need to ask yourself why you are with Alex and be sure that it is not just because Dylan has a girlfriend. As Alex may get hurt in the long run, so if you are not feeling that it is working out I think the best thing to do is to finish it with him and be independant for a while so that you can give yourself time to sort out your head and what you want in life. Goodluck.
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