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*haneblastedskyhigh
writes:there's this girl in this extraclass i go to after school.there are eleven students there i think... including her and i dont know nobody over there.She might be same ages as me.I got a crush on her....i read a little “understanding body language "articles on some sites and i noticed things ...like...she makes an eyecontact with me .when im doing my questions...i take a quick peek from the corner of my eye and i saw her looking at me too. sometimes i think its just my mind making this stuff that she like me....maybe because i never had a gf.With me being a virgin....hormones kicking.Then i think maybe she likes me too..sometimes we both get eyelock and either she breaks it or i break it....i think maybe she is looking at me and thinking what a“ pervert " ... sometimes that maybe she want me to approach her..i cant keep lookin at her coz afterall its n extraclass and i cant talk to her as it will disturb her but whenever i see...she looks back at me... . my parents wanted me to go to these extraclasses coz i got really bad grades. im usually late coz i dont have a car and my dad takes the truck to his office. shes always there before me. when i enter she dont even look at me.i feel like i was a fool..but later she do. i can walk her home(she dont have a car neither) but the thing is she dont know me and i feel kinda awkward talking to new people. im totally cool with talkin to my friends but when i see her...my mind is empty and i dont have a topic to discuss....i end up walking behind her with my headphones on my head and eyes in my cell phone screen. i dont want to look desperate but I want to know her better . how should i talk to her? about what?does she like me? should i even approach her?thanks.
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reader, shaneblastedskyhigh +, writes (21 May 2015):
shaneblastedskyhigh is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey....i sent her a friend request on facebook today and she accepted it....should i start talking to her via facebook or should i start in person?the thing is...i can talk to anyone for like hours on facebook or kik but in person....it goes the opposite way....
thanks for your advices....I'll try these convo starters for sure....
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2015): I think what you should do instead of thinking up topics of conversation, is to make a short list of some questions you would like to ask her.
Then, start there.
Ask if she has a pet or favorite animal. Does she like music? what kind? does she play an instrument, or have a favorite band? Ask if she has siblings, older or younger? what are they like?
Just small talk stuff.
Also, be observant for other things you can ask about. Was she wearing something unusual, like a t-shirt with an interesting logo, or neat piece of jewelery you could ask about?
Then see where the convo goes from there.
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reader, Abella +, writes (20 May 2015):
 Hi Shane
One of the Aunts - Eve - wrote this answer that may help you
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/20-questions-to-ask-someone-on-a-date.html
There are even more articles on dating contained in this compilation of great articles published on DearCupid.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/22--great-articles-from-great-aunts-and.html
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reader, shaneblastedskyhigh +, writes (20 May 2015):
shaneblastedskyhigh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsame technique..? i like the way it sounds...but what should i talk to her about?whenever im around her...my heart starts beating fast....and im like 'get a grip man'...i need topics to talk about...p.s. thanks for your reply...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2015): Sure, talk to her.
Tell her you think she is very pretty and that you would like to get to know her better. Would she like to go on a date this weekend?
Have a time and place planned out beforehand, so you can give her the details if she accepts. Something fun and in public, where you can talk and get to know each other. Maybe something you can participate in (go-karts, mini-golf, a concert or event in a park, etc.). Arrange the ride for you both if needed, or borrow a car so you can pick her up.
If she says no, then at least you will not be wondering anymore about if she likes you or not. And you can use the same technique on the next girl you fancy.
Best of luck, let us know what she says!
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