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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I met my current female friend Lucy over 4 years ago thro our children. We started texting each other more and I invited her and her husband round for dinner one night. We took up cycling together to get fit.We meet up 3-4 times per week for 2 years now and text daily. To begin with she was a bit stand of ish and didn't always reply. Looking back she hated and still does if I spend time with other friends or go out cycling without her. We are both in our 30s and married. She passes it off as a joke and I don't mind. She is my best friend and we are reslly close but I have noticed a pattern does emerge when I do something with another female. For example, I went out for tea with a friend and I got a text asking if I was out as it was on fb. Just little things like that.I went out to a party with her and we got carried away with the alcohol. It's the first time we had really let our hair down together. We were close all night, I grabbed her hand to drag her up on the dance floor and she changed the grip to linked fingers..... I didn't change it back. Oh the bus on the way home I got rather sleepy and rested my head on her shoulder, she started stroking my face. When she left I don't know why but I kissed her and told her I loved her. She had said she loved me before but all during the night there was a chemistry between us. Later that night when I got home I had a text saying she loved me too.Over the last few weeks I feel like we are more in a relationship than a friendship but unspoken.... Nothing has happened but my husband has started to ask about her and get a bit jealous. Does this sound like a normal close best friends relationship? We go on dates about once a month outside our sport and get on amazingly.Thanks
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reader, EFM94 +, writes (27 April 2016):
 The friend relationship sounds normal to me. I have girl friends where we text saying 'love you beautiful' etc quite a lot... I peck my bestie sometimes when were out drinking together... And I have a long term boyfriend. It doesn't mean anything were both quite crazy party girls so it's normal to us! Lol.
This friend does seem to get jealous easily though! I can see my friends separately at different times and they are all OK with it. I'm wondering whether she is starting to have romantic feelings for you? And if you are towards her? By saying you had chemistry one night this sounds more than friendship.. but think about what you do carefully as you're still married.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 April 2016):
 The question is do you have feelings for her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am kind of weirded out as my other close friends don't act like this. She went funny with me, jealous over me cycling by myself the other day that my husband asked me if she could have feelings for me
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (25 April 2016):
 Everything sounds normal except for all this hand holding, "love" and kiss stuff. In my book, that is romance and something that married women should do to their husbands, not to one another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2016): I'm sort of confused by your question. If you're wondering if this sounds like a normal, close relationship between two friends - it could be. I definitely know girls who do those same things, but it's totally platonic.
But it seemed like there's more to your question.
Are you hoping for more? Are you wondering whether she has romantic feelings toward you because you have them toward her?
Or are you wondering if she has romantic feelings because you are kind of weirded out and do not feel the same?
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