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Does this mean I'm gay?

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Question - (28 January 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 30 January 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *estgirl writes:

I am currently in a relationship and have bin with my partner for 3yrs but, if I were to masturbate, I often think about women. I am totally straight, well atleast I think I am but I often say oh, wow she's really pretty. Does this mean that I am gay?

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A female reader, toucan20 United States +, writes (30 January 2010):

If you think a girls pretty, that doesnt make you gay. im whole heartedly straight and i still tell girls theyre pretty or tell my friends that another girl is pretty. thats how girls are they admire the beauty. and as for the masterbation thing, i couldnt help you. masterbation is icky. no offense

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (28 January 2010):

No, not at all. Maybe you're just curious. Nothing to worry about.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010):

It could be you are simply just bi-curious. It does not mean you are gay. The wikipedia meaning: "Bi-curious is a term used to refer to someone who does not identify as bisexual or homosexual but feels or shows some curiosity in a relationship or sexual activity with someone of the same sex."

Your fantasies during masturbation are pretty much a normal thing.Some people panic when they have a same gender fantasy. You need to understand that one's sexual behaviors/identity can change, as they go through life and experience different situations. And some people always remain within their current sexual identity. They just keep their curisoity about same gender sex, only in their fantasies. Masturbation and fantasies are healthy, normal and fun..just enjoy.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010):

It simply depends on what you feel you want. If you're happy and content in your relationship, but enjoy thinking of women while you masturbate then you're probably just curious and open minded to broader concepts of beauty than simple heterosexuality.

If you are NOT content in your relationship and feel something is lacking that you can only get when you fantasise about women then you may very well be gay.

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