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26-29,
*Dazzling
writes:A guy liked me for a year and showed it through the typical signs, e.g. staring, trying to talk to me, even offering to help me once. It hadn't been long before I developed feelings for him but the problem was that I responded quite shyly, if at all. I didn't mean to, but I have a quiet personality, especially around those I don't know well.From Day 1 at the start of the school year (February) he started ignoring me, like walking straight past me, eyes glued straight ahead. A couple of times he might've looked at me but looked away when I looked at him, but I'm not sure that happens anymore. Maybe once. And he had this odd way of looking when he asked if I could pass him something, like he wasn't really looking at me. But there was nothing behind me but the wall(?!?).Now it's July and I'm afraid that it's too late to let him know. I mean, it's been months (plus we just had a 2 week holiday off school) and he doesn't stare at me anymore, and I'm wondering if the ignoring thing is just all in my head, 'cause he doesn't have to look at me at all, does he? Is he over it? But then in the 2nd last week at school, he did something kinda strange. There's a broken projector above my desk and the girl who sits next to me's desk. Another girl had leaned over her table and she was talking to her. Then said guy walks down my side of the aisle, looks towards the two girls and says "Excuse me girls, I need to reach the projector," or something, so I move back, and, still ignoring me, he just hops on my desk and tries to fix the thing.He stayed on my desk the whole time, so why would he talk to the other girls who were there? This has happened with another guy too, except he asked me directly if he could stand on my desk. Isn't that a form of ignoring me?I really like him, more than any other guy in the past, and I've been regretting not talking to him / letting him know for ages now, I just cannot forget about him at all. Do you think it's too late to bother talking to him? If he doesn't even look at me anymore ... doesn't that mean his feelings have disappeared?? He still does the staring straight ahead thing. But I can't figure out if it's because he's over me or not.Where to from here? What would you do?Thanks.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 It's never too late. Very likely, he has taken your silence to mean you are not interested, and is either trying to move on, or has moved on already. He;s trying to ignore you because you ignored him.
You have to take the plunge and open things up again for him. Fight past the shyness and ask him out. Even if his feelings have disappeared (which I doubt), they can come back.
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