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Does this count as rape?

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Question - (25 August 2009) 14 Answers - (Newest, 25 August 2009)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am a 20 year old male who has been screwing around with my 35 year old married neighbor for 5 years. She is a beautiful woman who has introduced me to many things sexually. She is very kinky and very persuasive. Over the years she has given me blow jobs, had sex with me, taught me to eat her out, taken pictures and videos of us, roled played various roles, tied me up, spanked me, used a didlo on me, dressed me in her lingerie and other woman's clothes, had me wear and use diapers while she played my mommy, but this past weekend it got a little crazy. She dressed me up as a girl. then tied me to her bed. she then proceeded to sip in front of me and show me she was wearing a strap-on. She cut my panties off an put the scissors on the night stand. and proceeded to screw me in the ass with the strap-on. after a few minutes something seemed to change the dildo felt different. next thing i know she is in front of me and their is still some one screwing me, her husband is fucking me whle she takes videos. he gets done, comes around front and they force my mouth open to suck his cock. should i turn them in for rape or does my previous activities not leave that option open?

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A male reader, Dani Nicole United States +, writes (25 August 2009):

Well to clear a little up, she was my mistress and i was her salve, I have always submitted to whatever she wants. and I did enjoy it. I do not want her to get into trouble. I have been to other functions with her where I served as her slave and did as I was told, (fetish parties). This was just unexpected.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009):

oooohhhh....yawnnnn... can't idiots like you get your kicks in the real world?

Oh, how can you aunts take a prat like this seriously?

This is so bloody obviously a fairy tale!

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A female reader, a spades a spade United Kingdom +, writes (25 August 2009):

if you did not consent, and in saying that i mean, at no point did you tell them this was ok, then yes. its rape.

they did not ask you if this was ok, and as far as you knew, your involvement was only with the female. they obviously planned it too.

i think the fact she's spent so long building your trust up puts her in a very bad light, and i agree with some of the posts below too, i think her husband was probably more than aware of your previous encounters.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009):

yep,that's rape-as far as him not knowing for sure if you consented or not,well if he thought you were gonna consent ,he wouldv'e asked you if it was ok,no?

If you feel you want to,then report them-but even though it's legally rape no matter what the circumstances I would leave out some of the kinkier things you've done with her if I was you,cos the police can be unsympathetic towards people who have colourful sexual historys or were drunk at the time,ect.Even though that's the police's problem,not your's,the fact remains that they are not perfect and it's up to them whether they will be charged or not.If I were you I would say she tied you up ready to make love and then he came in,and leave out the part about the dildo.

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A female reader, busy04 United States +, writes (25 August 2009):

busy04 agony auntRegardless of what your interactions with her were before, this happened to you without your consent. She let her husband in without your permission, so it's rape-if at that moment you disagreed with what was taking place.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009):

The question is: do you want to turn them in because you want to or do you want to turn them in because you think you 'should'?

Ultimately, know that there was no clear communication. What was the result of that sexual activity? Did you object or did you just lay there and accepted? After that, did you want to continue to have a sexual relationship with her and/or them or did you feel you no longer want this?

Before you go ahead with the accusations, you should weigh down what it is you really want, versus what you think you 'should' do.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (25 August 2009):

Honeypie agony auntIf you did not consent or know about the husband joining in then YEAH rape big time. I would turn then in, that is just sick when is it not consensual.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009):

This was rape. I am very sorry that this happened to you. She gained your trust and then violated it. I mean, hell, knowing you for five years? Turn them both in.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009):

you have been having sex with your neighbour for 5 years, when you were 15. all that time nothing out of the ordinary. now her husband rapes you and they both gang up on you.

are you sure this is not a fake posting????????????maybe the husband during the 5 years was secretly looking on as his wife f*cked you. twisted

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009):

yeah it counts as rape if it was without your consent.

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A female reader, karasu10 United States +, writes (25 August 2009):

karasu10 agony auntturn em in. thats rape. if you didnt consent to that or want to do it then it's rape no matter what.

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A male reader, celestial Canada +, writes (25 August 2009):

StudentOfLife is right.

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A male reader, StudentOfLife Canada +, writes (25 August 2009):

StudentOfLife agony auntIf you feel that they did things against your consent, it is rape no matter what you've been doing before.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009):

IN court they'd probably think you kind of asked for it. But contact a lawyer for a consultation just in case x

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