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writes:hi, my ex and i broke up in may. since may up untill about start of july she had been saying she wants us, and she loves me. but not once has she said please could we try again at this marrage. Even if i have asked do you want us. When we had spoken together it had made me feel she wanted us, but as soon as she left that was when i felt she was just saying it. It has only been recently that she carnt seem to answer certain qs that i ask her, like do you love me? and do you want this marrage and to try again at it? about last sunday i asked why do you want to be married if we arnt together? she said bcos i still have feelings for you. but what does that mean? does she still love me and want us or what? I know had suggested relate to her, [MOD NOTE: NB. RELATE IS A MARRIAGE COUNSELLING SERVICE] but i feel if we had gone i wouldnt be able to belive she wanted us, and it would only be words. that is why I would rather we talk and find a way together. feel all this time she has been string me along, hurts bcos i carnt make her out. What does still have feelings for you mean? and why is it she is an bale to answer certain qs,now, when weeks back she could?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tryed to ask thu text a few times, she just wont answer the qs i ask her. which i feel is unfair other people say she just string me along other wise she would talk to me. I'll go to relate for myself so i can talk about things, havent got any other way aprt from to move on with out her. Had thought she loved me and had thought she may have wanted anothe go at this marrage. Just have thought wroung havent I ? It hurts to feel she has just strung me along. Anybody got good ways of how i can start to heal the pain?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 July 2008):
I think relate is a good idea.
I know you think it will just be words but she will have to open up and explain her feelings at least.
If she seems to be getting more distant then you need to pull her back now before she gets over you all together.
Talk to her and ask her to come back and give your marriage another go. She'll have to give you a yes or no answer eventually if you keep asking. If she refuses to answer then take it as a no and move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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