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Does romance novel chemistry really happen?

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Question - (27 December 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 28 December 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I was just wondering, does passion, as described in novels, really exist? I mean stuff like: my skin burned like fire where he touched it, when our eyes met it felt like my bones turned into jello, I felt completely possessed by insane desire, I don't even remember how we got out of our clothes, his hungry lips were devouring mine, jada, jada, jada... you get my point. Has anyone experienced it in real life? Is it just the vivid imagination of the author? An exaggeration? Or does it really feel like that?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010):

Its out there.

I was with a man for ten years who made me feel dizy every time he held me close. The sex and closeness was unbeatable, but life was not perfect. he was not the perfect partner.-

I wont bore you with details of our fights but they were as strong in chemical emotions as our love.

I have fallen in a more gentle love with my current Man. There is no fire works this time around no ringing in my ears when we kiss and no all devouring whirlwind of the moment.

I get a peck on the cheack as I run off to work , it may as well be from the neighbour, but it is calm safe and I feel it is right for us.

I will never forget my prior partner and his elctric touch. But I have to remind myself there are always two sides of the coin. For me a quieter life is better.

Even now if I fly interstate and we meet at a cafe , my body knows his presence and reacts. I am more comfortable in his presence then anywhere and my mouth goes dry with a thirst that is indiscribable.

We often hope that when we are too old to fight we will be in the same nursing home. Side by side. That comforts me. My current Partner has never felt the love of a soul mate, so he doesnt know what he is missing. I hope he waits along time before he finds it or he seeks it. Till then we are happy in our grocery store and work schedualed life, with two little ones to smile about. The books on the side of the bed instead of my naked and ravaged body on the floor in a sweaty heap sounds like a compromise when I write. Maybe it is. But when you have true love. It is just as strong for that person even when your not in there company, so our past love holds me strong and my current life allows me to be truely safe and I am content with that.

I always feel lucky to have been in love with my soul mate, but it can happen more then once.

Keep yourself open to new expierences and you will find one that blows your mind away then your body will follow.

Goodluck.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (27 December 2010):

For a few fleeting moments, it might. But mostly the novels and films are a bunch of lies all cooked up to make you go goo-goo eyed. What these novels neglect to mention are the feelings of anger, annoyance, hatred, despair and everything else that couples go through too.

Love feels great, it really does. But it's not like it is in the books. It takes a lot more work and patience.

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A female reader, DanceInTheDark Canada +, writes (27 December 2010):

DanceInTheDark agony auntIt's an exaggeration.

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