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*XyhanXx
writes:I hope someone can help me figure this out. I have a crush on a Science teacher in our school since I was still in grade 5 and I'm pretty sure he already knew about that because the class would always tease us those times. I'm just 15 and he's 28 but he undeniably looks very young at his age and I look more mature for my age. I know him quite well and he's not like the kind of pervert male teachers I've commonly read about on the other situations. He's decent and very formal. Don't ever get me wrong about that because we have been good friends for almost 5 years. He's been there for me at all times, watching and guiding me in every step I take even if he's no longer one of my subject teachers (because he only teaches in grade school) which makes me wonder what is that something I have that any other students don't for him to do that weird thing. I'm not into having any relationships with him except for being my friend but I'm really eager to know if he does like me back or not- I just want to relieve myself from thoughts. Now I'm a bit grown up and I think he's most likely to be showing more interests in me. I dunno, but I feel that way. I have consulted my situation to some of my friends and most of them thinks he likes me too, some says that he's only taking advantage for I have the looks, etc. Here are some of the things he has done that really made me think:1. He does nice things to me.When I was still in grade 5, he is fond of singing us songs accompanied with a guitar. I asked him now what makes him do that, he answered, "because it's your request".2. He is sorta proud of me.He would oftentimes encourage me in everything and would always ask my subject teachers on how am I doing in my studies, problems and so on (he only confessed this to me last night and I'm very surprised because I don't expect he would do such thing). I asked him if he does the same thing to other students, he said no. And I've become even more surprised and at the same time gone curious when he told me that his co-teachers in grade school have shown him my pictures in different events I joined. He had also said to me that I'm pretty, intelligent and multi-talented.3. He told me that he still keeps all the things that belongs to me (like my test papers, drawings, etc.). When he got his cellphone memory full, he deleted all his saved messages except for the quotes and special messages I have sent him. He even saved all the numbers I have used since the very first time we text. 4. He's concern and cares about me a lot I think.When he added me in friendster, he complained to me about my dress for some of my pictures are just way too sexy. He said it's just a point of view of a concerned friend (see? he's not a pervert). He's also pretty much concerned with my family problems and tries to help me get over with those. The best thing that really proved me that he cares is that when we were having our basketball training last year, I accidentally slipped and had a terribly bad fall on the gym floor, he told me just this past few days that he's there that time watching me (he was standing on the second floor during that time). He said he planned to go down to where I had fell off to help me out because he felt so much concern about what happened to me but he didn't because he doesn't want any issues to go along the way.5. He's happy spending time with me.He said that he had this great feeling when I asked him out to talk with me on the phone, it's 11pm-3am in the morning when we first talked. Because of that, I get to know more about his life and so on and he even told me that "I'm the apple of his eyes" for everytime he plans of looking around, all he sees is always me (accidentally). We don't often see each other and he knows I can't speak a word whenever he's around so he managed to be the first one to smile and go near to start a topic. Besides that, he would always say that I'm the only one who's entertained to text him (even if he's busy), he can't answer me why. But he would sometimes change the topic when he knows something isn't right which when you were at my place, you would also think that he's just obviously controlling himself over to what might be known. I dunno.Despite of these things, there is this very one thing that bothers me and made me ask for a help in this site. "I knew about his x-girlfriend, he told me everything about their past and learned how much he loves her until now, he just can't get over- that's what he said." I dunno if his story is true or what, or just some sort of a lie to get my reaction towards it. But why would he make me think and feel good or liked when he really does not? Or it's just that I only expect too much for he is my crush and I want him to feel the same way too? For now, I'm trying to get rid of him since he told me that without even thinking what if it hurts me, well it just came up into my mind that he really doesn't care but I'm still not convinced, it's so confusing! Please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): Hello,,, umm yes i fair sure he does!! a. u have his phone number...b. u have him on a social network... and he thinks ur too sexy.. ;)c. he doesn't delete ur messages!d. and you talk late at night on the phone.honey i think he wants u! :D
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reader, kitty_3  +, writes (27 October 2009):
 yeah... the talking on the phone and commenting on your picture felt a tad wrong to me too. i think that he is somewhat attracted to you.
if you really don't want to take it further, i recommend you avoid him.
but if you do, wait until you're legal to get closer.
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reader, RosesAreRed86 +, writes (27 October 2009):
He may like you as a child, but certainly not romantically. You are way too young for him and he only views you as a kid.
You have NOT "been good friends for 5 years" even if you think you have. This is all in your head. Men aren't "friends" with women, and no 28 year old has 15 year old friends. Sorry to break it to ya kid, but it's the truth.
Oh, and stop denying the fact that you are "after him". Clearly you are. Nobody writes such a long post about someone they aren't romantically interested in. Would you ever ask DearCupid such a long question about a female student in your class who you weren't sure likes you or not? Didn't think so.
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reader, xXyhanXx +, writes (27 October 2009):
xXyhanXx is verified as being by the original poster of the question No, I'm not after him and I don't want to get any further at the first place! I just wanted to know if he does like me or not because these things he showed, urghhh! I dunno but it's somewhat drivin me crazy!
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reader, CaringGuy  + ♥, writes (26 October 2009):
No, and even if he did, it would be illegal and he could be arrested. Enjoy your crush, but don't ever take it any further.
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (26 October 2009):
 i think he likes you as a person but not romantically
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): Honey, I'd make a run for it coz number one, ur 15 and under age and he cud get arrested, stop chasing him and find someone ur own age! I kno its hard but ur young, n its wrong how he's ok with talkin to u on the fone till 3am, and says ur pic looks sexy...iv got the word pervert in mind. Stay away from him xx
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