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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have a really close guy friend for about 2 years now, we have a lot in common and we talk just about everything. I treat him just as a close friend and I have always been open to him about any topic, when he needs someone to talk to, I'd be the first one to listen because I really treasure this friendship. I do not want anything to happen since he has a girlfriend, which also happens to be my friend. From what I know, he is really in love with her... However, recently I sense that something weird is going on between us. Sometimes I feel he is not interested in my life at all, and can just stop talking with me for weeks, and suddenly he just appears and asks me what's going on, and why I didn't talk to him. Then he would talk about something that, IMO, is quite flirtatious/sexual, he always sounds like he's joking, but I am not sure if he really is joking... usually I would just stop and change the subject. I just have a feeling that whenever he talks to me, it must be something flirtatious, and after "he gets what he wants", he just disappears.Of course I don't want to embarrass him by telling him what I feel because what if he's not then it would be quite awkward. But what I want to know is, is this man wanting something more than a friendship from me?!?! Do guys like to just try and see how much he can get from female friends??? I really like him as a friend, but I'm not sure what he's really thinking... I'll stop this kind of relationship if I am sure he's trying to see if I'm interested in a no-strings attached relationship!?!!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2012): Thanks for the feedback aunt honesty! I'm the OP and I actually posted 2 similar posts here, because I thought I didn't post it correctly the first time, so here's the link to that, if you want to see my updates.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 April 2012):
 I think he is pushing you as far as he can to see if he can get a sexual conversation out of you. He may not take this a step further and want to be physical with you. But it sounds to me like he has fun trying to get you to flirt with him. It probably seems harmless to him and he is trying to get his ego going but it is wrong and you know this. So if he brings up something sexual then you just need to shoot him down and say it makes you feel awkward and ask him to stop. If he asks why remind him that he has a girlfriend and that all you want from him is friendship, if I am honest with you though it sounds like he wants to have some fun with you and doesn't look at you as a serious friend.
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