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writes:My boyfriend's family don't really like me but I want to get married to him. They would be totally against it.He says if I can get a million fans on my Facebook page he'll marry me anyway. So far I've only managed to get 137.Surely if he really wanted to marry me he wouldn't care what his family thought about me and just marry me anyway! Do you think he's trying to set an impossible goal so that he can wriggle out of this commitment?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): Honey, i believe this one might be the wrong one. If he is telling you that you need to do something in order for him to marry you, he's not worth it. My boyfriends family seems to start hating me now, and we are engaged. But guess what if he really loves me it doesn't matter what others think. We are the ones that have to live with eachother. It's almost like an he sets high goals. You shouldn't have to prove anything to him to have him a part of your life. You are who you are. Take a good look at this picture.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 The question is are you really prepare to please him to the rest of your life?... I dont understand you! its already clear. If you get a million fans on your face book he will marry you. what is the connection of face book to love? is that sound not clear to you? if he love you he will marry you even his family doesnt like you and without any condition. the next big question is, why are you doing this to your self? why you let him do this to you? dont you love your self? please" c'mon.. think a little bit ok" be nice to your self.. i wish you good luck anyway..
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Do you think a million is achievable? No. It's not going to happen. Neither is him marrying you.
Don't marry - or try to convince somebody to marry you who doesn't want to. You don't need him.
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reader, Sanita  +, writes (19 April 2010):
If your boyfriend wanted to marry you he would have asked it along time ago. Men always go after what they want even if their friends and family object. It's obvious that he is playing you like a fool by asking you to do an impossible task of getting 1 million fans on Facebook.
I advice you to ask him where you stand in the relationship in other words ask him if he intends to marry you. If he says no end the relationship and move on. It's going to be hard but you'll get over him And don't worry a thing one day you find someone you will love you for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): He is playing with you. If his family doesn't like you and you do marry him it will be strained. Also, if he told you to try and get a million fans on facebook, so he would marry you. Why would you do this? He playing with your feelings. If you guys get married and you want kids, will he ask you to go through obstacles just to get what you want?
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (19 April 2010):
whatd facebook got to do with it? whats wrong with him? thats a ridiculous thing for him to say, Id be questoning his maturity or rather the lack of it
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Marieclaire said what I thought. He's just playing a game with you. If he really wanted to marry you then facebook would have nothing to do with it. He might want to marry you further down the line, and said the facebook thing as a joke. But right now he does not want marriage. Did you ask him if he was serious?
PS. I'd take offence if my boyfriend said that to me, about getting so and so many fans on facebook before he'd marry me.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (19 April 2010):
 You are absolutely right on this one - if he really loved you and wanted to marry you then he would propose, simple as that. By setting you this task of a million followers, he knows you are never ever going to acheive that so he knows he has managed to get out of marrying you.
I think you need to speak to him and tell him you are not going to play any of his silly games and you want him to stop with the excuses. Tell him you love him and want to get married, and ask if he feels the same. Tell him that you are not going to jump through hoops to get him to marry you, and that all you want is for him to be honest with you about marriage and if he wants it. If he cannot discuss this in a mature manner then I'm afraid he is not the right man for you - after all, sharing the same values on things like marriage and children is critical, and if he cannot even talk about these things let alone come to an agreement then you really dont have much hope for the future.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): It definitely sounds like he does not want to get married. if he really loved you and wanted to make that committment to you, then he would not give you a challenge to complete before he agreed to it. and you are right, if he wanted to marry you then he would marry you anyway.
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