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writes:is there such a thing as not loving someone the same? i love my boyfriend very deeply, and he loves me, but there are moments that i think that he doesn't love me as mch as i love him. but when we talk it seems as though his way of loving someone is different. there are times when he doesn't do things that i want him to do to make me feel special. and he says that the things i do for him, which is what i expect him to do, is not what he wants from me. is this possible, or are we just incompatible.we have broken up several times over this matter, but cannot really seem to let go of one another. we keep breaking up and making up, and its getting tiring. the way for us to move on is to not see one another, but this scares me, because he's my only REAL friend. what should i do? if i break up with him, how do i stop the pain of lonliness and fear?
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reader, rcn  + ♥, writes (26 April 2008):
 This is actually simple. People only feel loved in one of three different ways, but varries from person to person. Physical, verbal, or material. All he needs to do is find out what one way within those three categories get's you smiling and blushing, and ready to collapse in his arms then its just a matter of do, and repeat. The issue is that he may be trying to show you love, but how he feels loved, which may be the complete opposite of how you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): This may be a good time to start goin gout with friends more often. When you are in a break-up period with him, don't be afraid to go out, have fun, flirt with other guys. Let him know that he needs you as much as you need him. Don't try to make him jealous, but don't stress over a guy that doesn't show you he loves you.
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