A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I guess I'll start from the beginning. My friends and I were sitting in the lunch room when the art teacher came over and started chatting. I'd never had him before, so I wasn't saying much. But he turned to me unexpectedly and said "Are you taking art next year?" and I told him no, I was taking gym. "You have to take my class." he said. And I knew at that moment that he was right. I knew I had to take art, but I couldn't really explain why. I transferred myself into art.After a couple of days in art class, he started to talk to me personally. I asked him to learn a song on the guitar, and he has. When I told him to sort of music I listen to, he said "Wow. You are not a usual tenth grader". We have been talking on a personal level, outside class time, for a few months now. He has been helping me with very difficult personal issues, and he talks to me like an actual human being, unlike most other teachers. We have become friends in a very short time. This is not the regular "I have a crush on my teacher" sort of question. It is not at all one sided. He constantly tells me that he likes having me around. "Its reciprocal." he tells me. he doesnt seem to want me to forget that he likes being my friend too. He has actually said to me "You affect me." And said to my mom that he teaches his class differently because of me. "She's like a magnet. There are all these other kids asking me for help, but i just want to be close to her". He has asked me to come to gigs, has been teaching me guitar, and been talking to me for hours after school. He wrote a song about me, and my difficult personal issues. He tells me he misses me if we go for more than a day without talking at least a little bit. He told me that, when everybody walks out of the room, and its just me and him, its like a glass of lemonade after digging a ditch. Its wonderful. He always says "I wish you would just graduate already. Then you could come over, we could have a barbecue, and nobody could say anything." He made me promise that I wouldnt lose touch after high school. He has talked about wanting to be able to give me rides home, but the school board has rules. And he told me that he wants me to come over this summer, and we can just hang out and talk without any interruptions. And he wants me to babysit his kids. Oh, did I fail to mention that he has a wife and two children, and that he's 38 years old? And my friends have told me that its weird that I spend so much time with him, but he just makes me happy. I can't look into his eyes without smiling. He can make me laugh when I have tears in my eyes. But I think I might be falling for him. My question is.. does it sound like he could be falling for me too? He has said things like "I'm married to the girl I met in grade 11. I don't know what could have happened if I hadn't." and when he was telling me that he would want his daughters to grow up to be like i am, he quickly corrected himself, making sure that I knew that i wasn't like a daughter to him. and he keeps checking my age, which gets me wishfully thinking that he's wondering when i'll be legal. but, does it seem like he could be into me too? If we could all just disregard the age difference for a minute.. is there any chance?
View related questions:
crush, my teacher Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): This teacher is old enough to be your dad and he knows exactly what to do and say to make you feel something for him. He is a teacher and it is wrong for him to take advantage of his position like this! You need to speak to the head of your school,show him/her this text and you will find out that what he is doing is wrong. i sincerely hope you realise what is going on here and you stop it before it goes too far and you end up getting hurt!please please please tell somebody about this! listen to your friends!
A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe would not leave his wife and kids for me, and he would never ever cheat on her. I wouldn't go along with something like that. But.. if I make him happy, and he makes me happy, why is it such a bad thing? I feel a connection to him like nothing I've ever felt before. If its love, how could age possibly stand in the way?
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts not something creepy though. He honestly cares about me. And he would never take anything (friendship or further than that) past what i would want it to be. and if he does want to get into my pants.. well, i dont have a problem with that. I want to get into his pants too.
...............................
A
male
reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 It sounds to me that he's flirting with you on a very unhealthy level taking into account your age. You should be very careful and definitly not go alone to his house. This is not normal behaviour and even if it feels right, it may not *be* right. You should let it cool off slowly and not let him talk you into things that seem a bit too personal. You have a crush on your teacher but he practically forced you into it so it's not really good.
Promise me one thing: You HAVE to tell your parents about this. They have to know exactly what's going on and they will help you in every way. For example, let them read this piece of text that you wrote here and it will all become clear to them. If you don't want to tell your parents at all then talk to someone else about it. Definitly make sure it is an adult or more than one adult. Nevertheless, they will be able to help you figure out all of this and don't be scared or shy because it will all help you.
You've made a friend with him but I can honestly say that things don't always look the way they are. The fact that you've fallen into a crush with him means that your judgement will be completely messed up and you won't see everything the way it is. Don't let him make you into somebody you wouldn't want to be for the world so just be careful and let as many adults hear about you and your art teacher getting on so well as possible;
Seriously, just let them read the text you wrote here and it might become clear to them.
Good luck and I wish you well, x
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): Yeap it sounds at least like he is looking to have an affair and he is probably attracted to you. Look the truth is this guy is married and he has kids. My advice stay away. I mean nothing good can really come out of this. He is 23 years older than you and he is married. Again he is 23 years older than you and he is married. Stay away. He is waiting till you are legal because he wants to get in your pants.
...............................
A
female
reader, janniepeg +, writes (25 April 2010):
 Everything sounded okay until the wife and kids part, and that he's 38. He's predatorial from the beginning. The reason why he picked a young girl like you is because no one would suspect the obvious that he's interested in you romantically, and you won't even question it's wrong to be that involved like this when he's married. He's sounds all suggestive and makes you feel special. At night when his wife and kids go to sleep he's jerking off thinking about you. How romantic. I am starting to be disgusted with high school male teachers nowadays.
...............................
|
