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writes:I’m a 17 year-old girl, and I like an older woman (29). I knew the first time I saw her that I liked her, and tried not to due to the age difference and the fact that I thought nothing would ever happen. But I can’t help it. For the past 18 months she’s literally all I can think about. We both have a lot in common and get on quiet well. She always seems to make the extra effort to make conversation with me when we are in a group, which we always are, or to stand a little closer to me, or to casually touch off of me in some way and we always seem to catch each other’s gaze. I took all this to mean that she probably likes me too.A few days ago I decided I didn’t want to wait another week to talk with her so I sent her a casual text asking about her training. I was delighted when she replied with a page-long text, and I replied keeping the conversation going. In her next text she abruptly cut the conversation short by stating “C u nxt week!” at the end. I was gutted as I had thought that at last, she must know I like her now. I really don’t know what to think of this now. Should I take this to mean she doesn’t like me and try to move on?I appreciate any advice given on this! Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice everyone! It certainly helped to clear my thoughts if only for a while =)
Snord: that's what I have been doing, even now. Although, with the season over throughout December, not being able to contact her has been difficult. On the bright side, we were back to training just the other day and again, it's the same feeling as before.
I'm happy to know that I'm not going crazy, and thanks for writing, showing that it isn't a completely impossible task to date an older woman! =)
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reader, snord  +, writes (19 January 2011):
I know how you feel, I'm 17 and have a romantic interest with a 39 year old woman...We made out at a bar on New Years and now have been texting back and forth. If I were you I would continue seeing this woman in the similar context that you have been so far and just make subtle hints, and see if she either responds in a positive way or not. What has happened since if you don't mind me asking, have you spoken to her recently?
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reader, Tuyen +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Above is good advice... but if you do decide to confess your crush- be prepared for rejection.She may see you as too young for her, whether she likes you or not.Good luck and all the best.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 She could have been busy and didn't feel like texting back and forth. Also, some people just aren't that in to texting. It could also mean that she senses you're interested in her so she cut you off. Still, she didn't completely cut you off, she just ended that conversation which wasn't even a real conversation. Texts are texts, talking is a conversation.
Next time you see her, see if she wants to go out for coffee or something. Suggest something where you two can have some alone time and talk to her. Maybe even confess your crush. Have you ever heard her talk about boys, because if so, she may not swing that way.
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