A
male
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:Does it matter if I never have a partner? So here's the deal...I've only ever had one partner, and that was years ago. I'm 24 now, and so interested in my research, writing and subject that I don't feel that I'd ever have a need for a partner: all of my enjoyment comes from my research subject (French Literature and the works of Marcel Proust). I have a healthy social life with my friends and family, and am so 'wrapped up' in my research and academic interests that I've never felt the need for a partner. Some people choose their careers ahead of a partner though right? I know I'm still young, but would it matter if "A la recherche du temps perdu" (Proust's biggest piece of work) takes over my life (as in the part of my life where a partner would be). I've never been a sexual person anyway, so not too bothered of missing anything like that; just suppose that I want confirmation that It's cool if that's what makes me happy. Why I'm even asking for clarification I don't know...It's just something that's been niggling away on the back burner for a few weeks now. Any thoughts on this would be greatfully received! x x Reply to this Question |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): your 24!!not exactly on the shelf,i think its great that ur happy were u are,alot of people seek happiness from others.you may not feel the need for a partner now but maybe its just that u havent met the right person yet?but i do really think its fantastic that ur so interested in your work and that will pay off for you.i wouldnt worry as long as ur happy thats no.1.im sure you will meet the right person someday but for now ur situation is perfect if you feel it is
A
male
reader, mitch +, writes (22 April 2007):
If you feel satisfied by your research and don't want a relationship, then don't have one! Its not everyones cup of tea, and i feel the most important thing is to be happy. If you were to try a relationship because you felt it was the norm thing to do, it might not work if you were to end up slipping back into spending all your time with your work.
It all an individual thing... what ever makes you happy! but never rule the idea out - you never know when you'll meet that someone special, and perhaps they'll even share your love of French Literature, meaning having both is a definite posibility. But as i say, never shut any doors for definite. Your still very young!
...............................
|
