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Does it hurt the first time you get fingered?

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Question - (4 December 2006) 61 Answers - (Newest, 1 June 2010)
A female , anonymous writes:

Hi, I'm 17 and I have never been fingered. I was woundering does it hurt the first time you get fingerd?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010):

Well the first time I was fingered I was 13 years old., now I'm 14 and still a virgin. I still have the same boyfriend. He has regular sized fingers for a boy and it didn't hurt me when he did it. I stayed relaxed and let him go in. I though It would hurt but it was great., he still sometimes fingers me and it gets better and better(:

hope I've helped you.!3

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010):

i have never gotten fingered but i think that most people enjoy getting fingered than having sex... dnt u feel like wats the point of getting fingered by a guy who doesn't really rate u.... watever a guy does to the girl should be in accordance to wat the girl wants but its like girls nowadays are interested in keeping a man than having a relationship whereby they will be loved and adored for who they are and not what they give.... if u dnt like getting fingered DNT LET IT HAPPEN THEN.... if ur a virgin, u can get disvirgined by being fingered... a true guy will respect a girl's view no matter what the sexual romantic state is.

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A female reader, Keda808 United States +, writes (31 May 2010):

The first time i got fingered was during this past winter break and it didnt hurt at all...

But the other night when i went camping with my Newest boyfriend who has had kinda alot of experience he started fingering me and it didnt hurt at first but then he started going harder and deeper im guessing and maybe using atleast 2-3 fingers he started hurting me!!! i felt like i wanted to cry when it hurt really badly but i didnt say anything about it i just kept going with it. He fingered me so hard that i still kinda hurt.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010):

its amazing. i was really nervous it was going to hurt like mad but its didnt just make sure he rubs you lots first and spread your legs that makes it eaier

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010):

it usawoly doesnt hurt but if he/she goes up too far or does it too hard it can be painfull

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010):

Well if you haven't noticed (not trying to be rude) but a lot of these answers are not the same. Some of them said it did hurt and some said that it didn't. I guess it really depends on the person. For me it didn't hurt, and I don't use tampons or anything. But also i'm very active athlete. I don't know if that has to deal with anything or not. So like what everyone else said just stayed relax and just enjoy the experience. Hoped this helped :)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010):

I was 17 when i fingered this girl for the first time when i did it for the 1st time it hurt her abit becuaes i went in to far after that she loved it and she just wanted me do it all time. She was turned on by the time i had finished she loved it. Just makesure your relaxed

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010):

i thought that it did hurt, it felt like i put a tampon in wrong...i dont think he did it wrong cause he's did it before. So im guessing it was because i was tight or something. but the first time i had to tell him to stop...but the second it felt pretty good.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010):

Hello There I'm Sheyenne I'm 17 And I Got Fingered Last Night..... It Kinda Hurt At First But Not So Much...... After He Did It A Lot It Started Too Feel Good (: Just Be Safe......

-Sheyenne(:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010):

Well ok I got fingered recently and it did quite hurt, but it's bareable. I'm pretty sure it was because I'm pretty tight not because I was nervous or not wet enough.

I didn't bleed. Hopefully after a few times it will be better.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010):

Hi im am 14 years old right now and very petite. & this is wierd telling like a older person. But I am a virgin and my boyfriend fingered me for the first time the other day and it didnt hurt at all. If you use a tampon for your periods it really shouldnt hurt as much, but then again if the person has big fingers it may change your experience. well i hoped this helped coming from a girl whos new to this.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010):

When i got fingered for the 1st time, it didnt hurt at all. but i was wet really bad as he said. and he only used 1 finger to be safe.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010):

Well I got fingered for the first time today and I'm 15 and a virgin. It was really painful for me? But I was a bit scared, and not really in the mood in fairness, so hopefully next time it'll be better :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2010):

hello, well I got fingered for my first time when i was 15. No actualy it doesn't hurt at all. You just have to be really relaxed. Let him do his thing. Do make sure your turned on and wet, otherwise it might be painful. He should start off with one finger and gently, make sure to tell him if it hurts or if not. Don't be afraid to let him know, after a while you'll start reaching your climax and it feels amazingg! (: have fun, and be safe.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010):

hi, it doesent really hurt, ive been fingered now nearly everyday and im pretty much used to it, hes started to put four fingers in and this hurt a wee bit, well put it this way ive had more pain, just go along with it and if you feel uncomfortable dont let them peer pressure you into it! xxx hope this was good advice xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010):

when i got fingered the first time , it hurt pretty bad .. but i got over it . the last time i got fingered it didnt hurt at all and my boyfriend used 3 fingers . it just depends on how many fingers he uses and how hard he does it i guess .-

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010):

yes the first time u get fingered is sore, it was 4 me, but my bf just did a lil but at a time and now i love it, so if it hurts den stop and nxt time try again but stop once it gets sore or else it wil reli hurt

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010):

if you think it's going to hurt the first time you get fingerd just try fingering yourself first and that's what it will feel like (:

im 13 and im a virgin and i fingered myself first to see what it would feel like, and when this lad did it to me it was emazing! -try it yourself first and find out.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010):

it fucking hurts like fuck my pussy felt like it was gettin gcut off

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010):

my boyfriend has fingered me LOTS of times. and honestly, it felt good. like the first time, it felt like it kind of hurt, but then he kept doing it and i got used to it. he's done it quite a lot, and the more he does it, the more wet i get :). it feels sooo sooo good .

have him put 2 of his fingers in between your clit, and have him go in circles. its AMAZING !

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010):

its really nice get him to lick your vigina first and then let him do it

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A female reader, kaseeiy United States +, writes (10 January 2010):

The first time i got fingered was last year when i was a freshman in college. Me and this guy was in public pool at college and nobody was there but me, the guy, and the lifeguard. We did a little kissing, and then his hand went down to my vagina. I thought he was just gonna do a little touch, but he actually stuck his finger in, and did his thing. Did it hurt? No, not for me. I just felt that something was inside of me, and i am a virgin so i was pretty new at the thing. And while he was doing it, i kinda moaned and stuff. Did it feel good? Up til today i ask that question. It felt good, and didnt hurt.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010):

well im nearly 14, and i have to admite it did hurt a bit, but it depends how big the boys fingers are really :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010):

my boyfriend just finished fingering me and it honestly did not hurt. it was amazing and i asked him to use 3 fingers and not one. and im a virgin and it was my first time getting fingered.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010):

just got fingered a few days ago. ouch! i think its because it was my first time and they say the more youve been fingered the bigger and more relaxed the hole gets

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009):

omg! my boyfriend fingered me and it was amazing he has big fingers and the harder he went it felt amazing

its the best feeling besides having sex! its just amazing the weter it is the much amazing it will feel!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009):

well im 14. i got fingered when i was 13 by the boy i love with all my heart. when he 1st fingered me i was pretty nervous, but then, omg i have to say it was my best feeling of all... honestly if feels very good and it doesnt hurt at all. && for you not to be nervous just try youself first. believe meh it would be a very good feeling.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009):

It kind of hurts a little but not that much,but also depends how many fingers the guy uses.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009):

The first time you are fingered it might hurt just a bit. when i got fingered for the first time it didnt hurt during it. the only time i felt the pain was afterwards. its not tht bad. but being fingered is soo much fun! it feels soo good too! if you are nervous try doing it yourself before you have someone else do it!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009):

okay im 13 and my boyfriend has like really huge fingers. it actually hurt really badly when he fingered me for the first time but i dont think i was that realaxed. I hope that maybe for nextt time ;] il be relaxed like these people say and hopefully itl feel goood

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009):

i was 13 when i frist got fingered and i eally wasnt ready for it but it felt stangely good. but now 5 years later im with a guy i love and he really amazing in everyway. but it doesnt hurt it feels really gooooood

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009):

Hey i am 14 and i got fingered by my boyfriend, it does not hurt at all it feels soo good(:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009):

Heey I am 13 years old , my boy friend has fingered me before. I was really nervous but he told me to relax and it felt really good , and I am still a virgin too , not ready to give my virginity yet , but yeah it feels amazing and it didnt hurt me my fist time. The hard he went it felt AMAZING.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009):

Well wen i got fingered it didnt hurt me. jus felt uncomfortable but thats only because i wasn't relaxed and was very nervous but wen he did to me again i was realy wet n felt sooooo good :)! main key is to RELAX AND ENJOY!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009):

no it doesnt hurt. it feels amazing. make sure you are ready and have him start slow. i like it when i get wet and he goes really hard and fast its like having sex.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009):

No it doesnt hurt actualy it feels great, am a lesbian and thats what i enjoy most.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009):

im 15 and i myself am a virgin and for me it didnt hurt at all it actually felt pretty good. I personaly think that it depends on the guy and the hand movements that he does.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009):

I'm 13 and my Ex fingered me. It didn't really hurt. Actually it felt good. But my advice would be that if you think your boyfriend is going to finger you. First, you guys should make out so you'll be in the "mood" because it doesnt hurt when you're horny. Hope this helped. [:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009):

I'm 13 and my Ex fingered me. It didn't really hurt. Actually it felt good. But my advice would be that if you think your boyfriend is going to finger you. First, you guys should make out so you'll be in the "mood" because it doesnt hurt when you're horny. Hope this helped. [:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009):

nope, as long as you're properly warmed up and wet it doesn't hurt :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009):

it does the first few times but not to badly.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009):

Honestly, if you have been using tampons for a given time period, then it should not hurt, but then again every body is defferent. The vagina may become a little sore if the person doing it is rough, but it shouldn't cause sever pain.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009):

if you are a virgin then it will hurt a little bit!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009):

It didn't hurt me.. it was nice :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009):

i just got fingered for the first time a couple days ago. it helps if he rubs on your vagina before he does it, that makes you more wet. im a virgin too. his fingers are pretty big, and im pretty sure he used fingers, and he was going HARD - and it still didnt hurt at all. it felt AMAZING. idk if its just my luck, but it really didnt hurt. i could feel it a little bit afterwards, but it still didnt hurt. so i guess it just depends on the person? like i dont use super tampons either, i just used regular.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009):

The first time I got fingered it hurt alittle bit. It was more of a pinching pain. The more fingers your partner uses the more your vagina will get stretched out, which could hurt alittle. But don't be nervous, it feels amazing after awhile. You first have to get really wet or use enough lubricant for it not to pinch. If you use tampons it shouldn't hurt at all. Getting fingered before you have sex is a really good idea cause it can prepare you for having sex, it'll help it not hurt as much. Good luck and relax, getting fingered is an amazing feeling :]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009):

well the first time it didnt hurt me and the other times it kinda startd to hurt after a while it didnt hurt but it didnt feel good either until like the fifht time it felt pretty good:)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009):

when it first happened to me yes it hurt but it was because i wasnt relaxed and i was very nervous and also a virgin, but then we did it again a few nights later and i was relaxed and he took it slow. And if your a virgin start out with just one finger and if your not wet enough lick his finger that will turn him on, but like i said start off with one finger then eventually you will be loose enough or not as tight to do two. just have fun and relax.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008):

not if you're wet and be sure that ur relaxed or else it might...i think it felt really good just tell him to start out slow

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008):

no it does not....try with 1 finger first (whoever's doing it to unless your doing it to yourself but anyways) then when your ready there goes 2 fingers

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008):

It hurt me, but I was nervous and not relaxed and the guys hands were huge. The second guy had really small fingers, and it felt amazing. When I do it myself, it doesn't hurt but it doesn't feel good.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008):

Personally, all the times i've been fingered it's not painful at all and it just feels good. I'm still a virgin, but everyone says sex is what realllly hurts the first time. If it hurts at all being fingered, just tell the guy to take it easy. It should be fine though. Have fun!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007):

i was hooking up with this guy, for about an hour and within that hour he fingered me maybe 4 times. the first time it hurt a lot, the second time it hurt a lot but not as bad as the first time, the third time it didnt hurt but it didnt feel good, and the fourth time hurt a little. i guess, it depends what direction hes putting it in how hard he is fingering you and how often. i dont know, ive only done it once but i hope this helped. his fingers were big!

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A female reader, lena +, writes (27 December 2006):

lena agony auntnope it doesn't hurt. try it yourself before he goes to do it. you may be tight and if your not relaxed and all tensed it may hurt. just chill relax and enjoy, if it hurts tell him.

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A female reader, goodaz +, writes (23 December 2006):

goodaz agony aunthi! my first time was great,just tell him to be gentle,go slow and maybe stimulate the outside area(clitoris/all over) first and you should be fine.xxx.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006):

some moments it'll hurt just for a bit. but that feels kinda good. and afterwards is good as well. but I dunno if thats just me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006):

when you are alone, try it yourself. it shouldnt be bad, but experiment if you're worried about it

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A female reader, scared16 +, writes (17 December 2006):

scared16 agony auntjus keep telling him how u like it. if its your first time just ask him 2 go slow n b gentle. its not that it hurts but sometimes u may feel a little discomfort. nuthin 2 worry about tho! x x x

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A female reader, forgetmenot +, writes (13 December 2006):

forgetmenot agony auntnot if he does it right but he's not a mind reader so you're going to have to talk him through it. If something's not comfortable, tell him it's not. If something feels good, tell him about it. You can also direct him with your hands to help find a pressure that's good for you. Just try keep communication open and it should be enjoyable.

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A female reader, vixy  United Kingdom +, writes (7 December 2006):

yes and no. depends if your wet enough and if the person goes slow.

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A female reader, honkifuluvnicole United States +, writes (5 December 2006):

honkifuluvnicole agony auntIt can, but it can also be really really nice. Be sure that you are wet enough, he can do that by stimulating your clitoris. If it hurts, tell him to go slow, and by the time he is in, it will start feeling good. Dont worry about it and be sure to relax.

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