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Does it hurt the boy to have sex for the first time?

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Question - (25 November 2008) 10 Answers - (Newest, 13 June 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 18-21, *ear Danielle writes:

ok i have a few questions about sex

does it hurt a boy when they hav sex for the 1st time

and does it really really hurt for a girl??

my second question is when you bleed when you have sex for the first time would it be embarrasing because the blood will go on the boy

please i really need to no this as me and my bf are thinking about having sex

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011):

Hey there my name is lacey im 13 and i have had sex. may sound bad but it happens alot andi dont regret it atall anyway for a boy it shouldent hurt as they are use to mastubation the tops it could hurt would be from the tightness of the girls vagina but i doubt it would be that tight you would be screaming or anything:L

For girls; well for me it wasnt the worst pain i have had in my life but it does hurt a little. For me it hurt more as the pens was entering becase its kind of a shock but after that it was ok with only a little pain but you ingnore it really.

And as thy say about the female bleding duing sex its honestly not that much its about a tea spoon (the smaller spoons) if not smaller it wll only look more on a sheet or something as blood speads almost.

But hun its nothing to worry abut just relax take it steady. Be calm and eithr quuide eachother trough it or guideyouself through it(: hope this hlps and use protection. xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011):

Didn't hurt me in my first time at all, but I got thrush so use a condom kids. And take it slow because it will hurt a girl for sure.

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A female reader, kelsie United States +, writes (4 October 2009):

no it does not hurt for a boy to have sex im still have my v card but i no

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009):

I am 14 and a guy. my girlfriend is 13 and we were thinking about having sex, until 1 of her friends had sex and bled all over the place so she got scarred. then i started thinking that we dont have to and we decided to wait until we were ready and older. It wont hurt the guy if he weres a comdom but it will most likely hurt the girl and she will bleed. I dont think it would be embarresing to bleed aslong as you tell him that ur a vergin and u might bleed.

Just wait 4 the right time.

u will know when it is.

Peace.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008):

IT WILL ONLY HURT A BOY IF HE DOESN'T USE AN CONDOM AND ITS DRY!!!

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A male reader, ryandude18 United Kingdom +, writes (25 November 2008):

ryandude18 agony auntwell they have all said all the answers but please for god sake dont do it unless you are really 100% sure you want to and that you will atleast not regret it! Talk about it with him, its like alot of things. The more you know the better.

i am so ashamed at how i lost my virginity............

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008):

I can only speak for myself. And the answer is no. Didn't hurt one bit. Very tight, but not painful.

If he knows you're a virgin he'll be disappointed if there's not at least a little bleeding. If there's no blood he'll think he has a little willy.

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A female reader, hmm_girl United Kingdom +, writes (25 November 2008):

ok, first of all, I am sure you guys have thought this through but I can see you're aged 13-15. I think both of you should really think about the reasons you want to have sex. Are you sure you're ready for it? if you think you are and you still want to then hopefully you have thought about using protection. I am sure you have heard this millions of times from people but it really is important to protect yourself from STIs even if you're both virgins and also protect yourself from falling pregnant. You're still young and shouldn't have to make a decision on whether or not you want to keep a baby.

Getting back to your questions:

I don't know if it hurts boys, I don't see why it should so can't answer that question.

Every girl is different. When I first had sex it didn't really really hurt, I was 16 almost 17 and because I felt ready for it and wanted it I was relaxed and not tense so it was ok. Using condoms also helps with lubrication, if you want to make it less painful you can also use some vaseline on him so it helps him slide in.

Ok, about the bleeding thing. I didn't really bleed when I lost my virginity. My 1st lover was patient and slipped in slowly so I wouldn't hurt as much. Also, I was told it hurts less first time when you are on top as you have more control over how fast or slow he is in you. As I said, every girl is different but as long as you take it slow you shouldn't bleed too much. It is not like a period, it is like when you cut yourself.

I really hope this helps you but please do be careful.

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A female reader, lotus mama808 United States +, writes (25 November 2008):

lotus mama808 agony auntWell, most normal boys are experienced in masterbating, and it dosnt hurt them to have sex. As for the female, it depends on her body type. Every girl is different. Some girls hurt really bad, others dont. Some bleed a lot, others don't. Because you are the partner most likely to feel some pain, make sure you direct him (wether you want him to go slow, etc) so that you are comfertable. Do this somewhere you feel comfertable. Please use protection so you have lesser chance of getting pregnant, or contracting an STD. That is most important. Place a towel under you so that if you bleed, it dosnt make a mess. Don't be emberassed if you do bleed, many girls do, it is common and normal, and your boyfriend should understand that. Good luck, be safe!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008):

well i am not enitrely sure i know it hurts for the girl considering i am one. but for the boy???? they dont seem to show any pain but maybe they do! Some girls bleed during sex for there first time some dont some girls may find it more painful than others! it depends on how much your hymen has been stretched or broke! If u use tampons or masturbate it may not hurt as much. but everyone is different so there really is no exact answer. As for the whole bleeding thing. Well if he is wearing a condom the blood prolly wont stick to it! And if u dont bleed alot then not much blood will show! and besides if ur both enjoying sex and not focusing on u bleeding then u wont even notice! Have fun

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