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Does him keeping a photo of his ex mean he still has feelings for her? Am I being totally irrational and jealous?

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Question - (17 June 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 18 June 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *ettles writes:

I don't know whether I'm being totally irrational and jealous but I think my boyfriend still has feelings for his ex.

It wasn't a very serious relationship and it ended because she was kissing other people. I worked with him but we weren't close. We got together around 2 months after they split. We've been together for 15 months now but I'm still insecure about her.

They are not in contact and have saw each other once whilst I have been with him, and I was there. He acted quite cool and kept the coversation short and polite.

However, he has a picture of her (just her face) on his phone. This is the second phone he has got since we've been together so I know he has deliberately kept it.

I've asked him about it several times and his answer is simply "i don't know". He asked me if I wanted him to delete it and i said "only if you want to"...and the picture remains.

Am I being totally irrational and jealous? Or does this mean he still has feelings for her? I can't really talk to him about it again as he now gets angry with me for mentioning it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008):

Gawwwwd he is a wierrdo. They could just be like best friends, but still i can understand how you feel. Talk to him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008):

I find the fact that it's on his phone unsettling. Why does that pic get such a prominent spot, where it's with him always and he can look at it whenever he wants. Because it's on his phone, he's literally taking that picture of her with him wherever he goes. Why the need to always have it (her) close at hand? I still have pics of my ex, but only ones that I'm in as well; I tossed the ones of just him and the rest I keep in a folder on my old computer that I very rarely open - because it's not like I need to look at them all the time. Unlike, your boyfriend, who apparently needs that image of his ex handy at all times for some reason... Personally, I find that unacceptable.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008):

if i was you i`d play him at his own game,add a pic of your ex on your phone and see how he reacts,if he gets angry just say "if its ok for you then its ok for me"

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